Parenthood @ the Greenhome

Daily Blessed Experiences

2011-05-10T08:43:00.003+08:00

Our son is growing up right before our very eyes! These are amazing moments in the steps of our lives. Totally new blessed experiences that bring joys and smiles to us, our families and friends. Photo shows us having dinner at Italianni's in Bonifacio High Street.

Photo shows Rafael exploring what the white Black and Decker electric fan is made of.

These blessed experiences, thanks to Him, include:

1. Sofa surprise. One night in May 2011, dad suddenly saw Rafael in the sofa. He just moved into the kitchen to prepare dinner as mom as changing to “pambahay.” Within a few seconds, he was able to climb over his playpen and got himself seated in the sofa. He was looking guilty that moment. And it seemed that Angel CG plucked him out of his playpen and placed him in the sofa.

2. Playcar. He has outgrown the play car that Carla, Geneve and Nicole had sent by balikbayan box last year. He still can squeeze into the driver’s seat but his weight challenges him to move around our Greenhome. Now, we have to hide it from him as he tries to fall asleep but is quick to find out where we hide it.

3. Twelve kilos. Yes, his weight. He now weighs nearly 12 kilos. Nearly as heavy as dad’s black Macbook. During our last trip at Subic Zoofari, I was carrying Rafael most of the time around the place, together with my laptop inside my red Samsonite knapsack. That’s nearly 25 kilos on dad’s back.

4. More than 25 words. As he turns two by the 25th of May, he should be saying 25 words. Well, he knows more than 25 words. Word like iPad and juice, and all the names of the characters in Disney Playhouse!

5. Toddler class. These are major steps in our lives as parents. Rafael going to “Smart Explorers” playing and learning. Photo shows Rafael during his first day as an official smart explorer.

These are among the many blessed beautiful moments that happen in our daily lives with Rafa! There will definitely be more experiences to look forward to, but for now, can we just stop and cherish these moments!

1st Toddler Class

2011-05-10T07:14:00.004+08:00

Last Thursday, Rafael took his first steps at "Toddler" Class at Smart Explorers Pre-School. Yes, our loving son is meeting new and old friends at "Toddler" Class. There were about five little boys in the class. One of them is Padi Wenceslao, the boy who lives besides our condo unit.

The next day, Rafael seems restless around 11am. He didn't want to sleep and seem expecting to go to his "Toddler" class. Guess, he thinks it would be part of his daily routine. Not yet Rafael. Maybe, twice a week, all through this summer!

Rafael is a smart explorer

2011-05-08T07:24:00.001+08:00

Kids are all smart explorers.

They are naturally curious of things, gadgets and colors around their environment. At home, Rafael is already an explorer. Whether it be around the book shelves or under the wooden sofa, which is vintage furniture from our tour duty in Saigon, Rafael's curiosity will take him to all nooks and corners of our Greenhome. It wouldn't be a surprise to see him under the sofa reaching out for his toy car or a piece of Lego.

He now can reach the ref and call out "apple juice." He could pick out the small bottled water in the ref and gulp from it. Soon, he could reaching our front door knob. Now, we always have to lock the door. He punches the keyboard of dad's Macbook.

At "Smart Explorers" Pre-school, last 5 May 2011, Rafael discovered and explored his new playground. And it's very convenient as it is only a few meters away from our Greenhome in Legaspi Village. Teacher Melay (in a green T-shirt) welcomed Rafael with wide open warms and widest smiles!

There are more bright colors and helmets in all shapes and sizes. Plus, a trampaulin and slide. Music provides for a fun and happy environment. It may not as big and wide as Gymboree at Rockwell but is definitely a much better and safer playground that Legaspi Park!

Here's a video that Cecile took of our son's first official day as a smart explorer!

More steps around Subic Zoofari

2011-04-27T19:43:00.001+08:00

We spent three days and two nights at a house Binictican, which costs around 7,500 pesos a night. A little expensive, but it was worth the trip out of Manila to take these steps around the Subic Zoofari.

The house had three bedrooms. Nady took one bedroom while Rene and Juami shared one bedroom. The biggest room went to us. Grace, our broker, left some plastic paper plates and utensils for us. While we brought some pans, Rene cooked breakfast. Yummy. Omelet with tomatoes and onions!

There was a slight problem with the front door which Grace had someone fix within our first day. The place was newly-painted. Can just imagine the former American officials who used to live in this place and around Binictican until Mount Pinatubo drove the Americans back to their homeland.

Around Zoofari, Nady and Rene took these photos. I really couldn’t snap much pictures as I carried Rafa most of the way around Zoofari.

Tigers of Zoofari

2011-04-24T14:20:00.001+08:00

It was Rafa’s second trip to Subic. Last year, we took these steps with Max and Grace and Kai. And we explored the dolphins at Ocean Adventure. Although, Rafa was a little afraid of the dolphins. Maybe, as he grows older, he would learn to appreciate these intelligent dolphins.

Last week, we took the steps around Subic with Rene Bernal and Nady Nacario. We arrived late Thursday afternoon at Binictican due to traffic along NLEX. Maybe, most Manilenos were heading to out of town for the long weekend.

We hit Zoofari Friday morning as we were expecting a big crowd on that day. True enough, it didn’t seem like Holy Friday here at Zoofari as families in all shapes, sizes and color were around Zoofari.

The day started with a short program and animal show. Not really interesting. No special tricks that one hasn’t probably seen around. Plus, there was little audience participation. And those who did get a chance to go on stage got discount coupons. Not really an attractive incentive.

The safari ride in an enclosed jeep was a long wait after long walks around the zoo under the heat of the sun. It was around noon when we were in the safari, which was really a small enclosed area.

Only one tiger was around waiting to be teased. Our guide convinced us to shed out 200 pesos (at one hundred pesos per group) so a chicken could be fed to the tiger who would teased to approach the grills of the jeep. But by this time, this tiger would have surely eaten his ____th chicken.

Do you think the tiger went to our jeep, growled at us or even jumped on the roof?

I read that tigers are territorial. They are also solitary animals which is probably why there were one or two tigers in the cages around Zoofar. Many of their kind have gone extinct.

Today, these tiger will long be in the mind of Rafael as it was his first up close and personal encounter with these “big cats.”

Photos by Nady Nacario and Rene Bernal

Discovering Boracay's Beauty

2010-08-14T10:35:00.004+08:00

It was going to be a most memorable birthday weekend for dad as we all went to Boracay. Yes, it was part business but could still squeeze in some important quality time with our son Rafael. Above photo shows Cecile embracing Rafael reallly tight as the cool breeze hits the shores of Boracay.

Mommy Meya and Minnie also flew in to Boracay for this weekend. It was also their first time to enjoy the fine white sands of Boracay, but most of all, spend many rare moments as Rafael takes his first steps in the beach.

Photo shows Gil holding Rafael who wants to run around the beach,

Photo shows Cecile protecting Rafael from the strong winds the hit the shores of Boracay.

Dad's Boracay birthday weekend

2010-08-13T11:01:00.002+08:00

It was a really blessing to have shared my birthday with my loving Chief and blessed bundle of joy, Rafael in Boracay.

Plus, my own loving mom and sister, Minnie, who came home for a vacation from Edmonton, Canada, were also around and sharing these steps of parenthood with us. While they checked in at the hotel, besides our hotel, since I was on a media trip, they were really just a few steps across. And with the fine Boracay sand, walking to their hotel was not a problem. More of a leisurely walk.

Below is a photo myself with mom.

Photos of us waiting at Caticlan airport for our flight back to Manila.

The only experience that I missed on this birthday weekend is sharing the same flight with Chief and Rafael. Minnie says Rafael was behaved on his first airplane ride, but on the return flight, he was a little edgy.

There will future airplane rides with Chief and Rafael. Maybe, to Singapore? Hong Kong? Or even the States?

Steps around Boracay

2010-08-12T08:53:00.001+08:00

It is was our second trip to Boracay, since 2001. Yes, it has been nearly 10 years since we stayed at the Pearl of the Pacific Resort. We were still both living and working in Saigon and we decided to make a short visit to Boracay during our Christmas vacation. Most expats we met in Vietnam had been talking about the beauty of Boracay and surprised that we hadn;t experienced it. So, we decided we take steps around Boracay. That was in 2001.

Fast-forward 2010. these steps would take us with our son, Rafael and Mom Meya and Minnie to Boracay.

Here a video of Rafael enjoying the fine, white sands of Boracay. Minnie and Cecile closely keep up with his running along the beach!

And it was a most memorable way to celebrate dad's birthday... in Boracay with family!

First Time with Minnie

2010-08-02T15:51:00.000+08:00

My sister, Minnie, had been working in Edmonton, Canada for nearly five years.

By 2005, when we were returning home from Vietnam, my youngest sister was packing her bags to explore work and life in Canada.

This was going to be her third foreign trip. She visited us in Vietnam around the summer of 2005 and even got to meet up with Patrick Velez, our cousins based in the East Coast. We had also travelled to HK that year with mom. It was our first trip together as a family.

Last month, my sister had come home and for the first time, she would meet Rafael! Am sure Rafael felt the love and affection when Minnie first hugged him. I, too, was all smiles to see the immediate connection between my son and my sister.

And for the first time, we would all go duty-free shopping. You could see the smile and excitement in Rafael as he kept Miguel busy running after him at the lobby, while Minnie was filling up her registration form.

Maybe, Rafael was saying, “What are you guys getting for me. I have been sitting here in this push-cart for so long and haven’t really gotten anything for myself.” Baby Crocs?

But I guess, Rafael was amazed just the sight of the bright packaging of candies and chocolates around him. Plus, seeing the M and M mascot. And the Disney-inspired merchandising items, from bags to pillows.

He would point endlessly at these items, probably wondering, what’s for him? Well, that would be all the love and affection that our family can share!

First Haircut

2010-07-27T15:16:00.000+08:00

I don’t remember when I had my first haircut. But for our son, Rafael, his first-ever haircut is a milestone that will forever be etched in our lives and in blogosphere. His first hair-cut was last July 25, 2010. And it was at Rustan’s. We had asked our friends where there was a good barber for babies. He definitely couldn’t go with me at Bruno’s Greenbelt.

Amazingly, Rafael was behaved during his first haircut. He sat quietly at the car-inspired barber’s seat while watching one of his favorite cartoons. Dora. There were a couple of other kids and they seemed behaved too. But they didn't look like neophytes in this barber shop.

At the walls, there were poster of various kids with different hair styles. Guess, we were both conservative that day and didn’t want to experiment on any styles. Maybe, when he turns two? Or three?

Chief and I were also experiencing a first as we watched the barber slowly and carefully trim our son’s hair. There were moments of a few close calls, specially, as his “bangs” were being trimmed.

But I guess that is all part of our steps of parenthood. Being nervous and excited for Rafael’s first haircut!

Efren Penaflorida makes a difference

2009-10-10T17:14:00.002+08:00

Another Filipino makes us proud.

Efren Penaflorida made it to the top ten for CNN’s “Hero of the Year” Award. The winner gets US$100,000 top prize money! Efren was among the thousands of nominees. Yup, thousands from across the globe.

Efren’s growing recognition and respect has been brought about by the mobile school program. Here, our 28-year old Filipino and his “Dynamic Teen” goes to the rural areas to help improve the lives of kids through education. For nearly 12 years, he and his team has made their presence felt in the lives of nearly 1,500 young kids who have learned how to read and write, and appreciate numbers.

According to an interview published in the online-edition of the Asian Journal, Efren says, "We should all start the change from within. All of us, we should open our minds and hearts to accommodate to the needs of the less fortunate and release the hero within.” While Efren considers it a great honor to be regarded as a modern-day hero, he believes that no one is too ordinary to be heroes. “We are all capable of contributing to our community and to our country."

Efren has already been featured in the “Ako Mismo” advocacy campaign together with respected Filipinos like Ely Buendia and Charice Pempengco.

He needs our help. Let us vote for him, by simply following this CNN link.

The CNN Hero of the Year will be announced and awarded soon in a program at the Kodak Theatre in Los Angeles. Last day of voting is on November 19, 2009!

He has been on the streets helping many young, impoverished kids learn. Now, it’s our turn to help him so he could help more kids. Can you imagine how much books and learning materials US$100,000 can bring to Filipino kids?

We all can make a difference in the lives of others and we can help make that difference by voting for Efren Penaflorida and his mobile school program. And these kids whose lives he touched would hopefully, pay it forward and become good parents one day!

Students for Typhoon Ondoy

2009-10-03T10:51:00.005+08:00

The response of the government for Typhoon Ondoy has been criticized. In a story published in the Inquirer website, Sen. Logarda says, “It’s plain incompetence of the leadership, and government was absent,” said Sen. Loren Legarda. There is a pending bill on “disaster risk management.” Senator Biazon has blamed the NDCC “for the slow passage of the bill in the House of Representatives.”

While there are many criticisms, the response of many Filipinos has been praised here and abroad. There are many continuing untold and unpublished stories around us. And these includes the hundreds of young students who fill campuses, å barangays halls and warehouses around the city where they are packing relief goods for the typhoon victims.

Schools like UST, La Salle, UP and Ateneo have pulled in their students and teachers into their campuses to pack relief goods. These volunteers have given up their holidays to provide hands which have touched the hearts of many.

Officers and staff members of the UST Central Student Council have brought in concerned students for the packing of relief goods, clothes and other items for the typhoon victims. This operation was called “Tara Tomasino, Tulong Tayo.” Maybe, UST can adopt 400 families who are victims of Typhoon Ondoy as part of its 400th year program?

Ateneo de Manila University also opened up its campus to volunteers and victims. Students who need help or know of people who need help and text the name, location, and contact number to (+6329088877166). The school is now an open shelter and accepts refugees. Call (+632917-8952792)

There is an Ateneo DREAM Team established in Sept 2006 to coordinate the efforts of various units within the school toward the relief and rehabilitation of disaster victims. DREAM stands for Disaster Response and Management Team. The Dream Team runs Ateneo Task Force Ondoy, in partnership with the Simbahang Lingkod ng Bayan.

De La Salle University-Manila is accepting donations and goods. Drop off at the South Gate of DLSU-Manila. DLSU Medical Center is also accepting canned goods, blankets, clothes and water. Drop-off point is at Congressional Avenue, Dasmarinas, Cavite. You can (02) 844-7832 and (046) 416-4531

UP Diliman USC is collecting food, clothing and/or cash. Contact Titus 09178001909, Jose 09273056607 and Tin 09154906106. UP College of Arts and Letters (CAL) is accepting goods and cash. Donation center at CAL/text 0929-6454102

Assumption College is now accepting donations. These can be dropped off at the AC guardhouse inside San Lorenzo Village. St. Pedro Poveda College is accepting relief goods. You can call the Social Action Center 6318756 loc. 121.

All these students have made the country proud!

Help for Typhoon Ondoy

2009-09-30T07:54:00.004+08:00

Nearly one week after Typhoon Ondoy brought havoc and tradegy into thousands of families in and around Metro Manila, specially, in Pasig, Marikina and Cainta, there are still many Filipinos within our midst and own communities who need are help. Photos credits to Reuters.

I got this list below from Lisa Bruan, via a forwarded email. You can see many ways and means on how we can help.

1. Victory Fort is opening its doors to those affected by the typhoon. Call 813-FORT.

2. NoyMar relief Operations: Clare Amador (+639285205508) or Jana Vicente at +639285205499). Drop off for relief donations is at Balay Expo Center across Farmers Market Cubao.

3. Miriam Quiambao drop off points: One Orchard Road Building in Eastwood, or message http://www.twitter.com/miriamq for more details.

4. Philippine Army Gym inside Fort Bonifacio or GHQ Gym in Camp Aguinaldo are now distributing donations for Ondoy Victims.

5. Team Manila stores in Trinoma, Mall of Asia, Jupiter Bel-Air and Rockwell shall be accepting relief goods (Canned Goods, Ready-to-drink Milk,Bottled Water and Clothes) for distribution by Veritas.

6. Caritas Manila Office at Jesus St., Pandacan Manila near Nagtahan Bridge (+632-5639298, +632-5639308)

7. Radio Veritas at Veritas Tower West Ave. Cor EDSA (+632-9257931-40)

8. Aranaz Stores in Rockwell & Greenbelt is accepting donations of any kind for Payatas communities affected by Ondoy

9. Simbahang Lingkod ng Bayan Task Force Noah, a disaster response arm of the Jesuits, is accepting donations. Please drop it off sa Ateneo Cervini Dorm.

10. Red Cross Load Donations: Right now the easiest way to make donations from the seat of your chair is via mobile phone load. The Red Cross Rescue and Relief Operations. Text: REDAMOUNT to 2899 (Globe) or 4483 (Smart)

11. Ateneo de Manila University is now accepting donations for the victims of Ondoy. Donations can be dropped at MVP Lobby. For those stranded/those who need help: To all students who need help or know of people who need help. Please text the name, location, and contact number to (+6329088877166). ATENEO, which is now an open shelter, accepts refugees. Call (+632917-8952792)

12. Papemelroti stores in 91 Roces Ave. / Ali Mall Cubao / SM City North EDSA / SM Fairview / SM Megamall / Glorietta 3 in Makati / SM Centerpoint / SM Southmall are accepting relief goods (canned goods / milk / bottled water / clothes – NO CASH pls.)

13. Our Lady of Pentecost Parish (+632-4342397, +632-9290665) per Gabe Mercado, donations are very much welcome. The Parish is located at 12 F. Dela Rosa corner C. Salvador Sts., Loyola Heights, Quezon City.

14. Hillsborough Village Chapel – Water, blankets, shoes, and clothes may be sent to Hillsborough Village Chapel in Muntinlupa City. These will go to families whose houses were washed out in the nearby sitios.

15. Greenhills/Mandaluyong/San Juan Area, if you want to help out with the rescue and relief operations, you can drop off your donations (clothes, food, etc..) at La Salle Greenhills Gate 2 tomorrow or volunteer from 9am to receive, sort, repack the donations.

16. “LUZON RELIEF: Volunteer / Donate / Pray”: Donations can be brought to RENAISSANCE FITNESS CENTER, 2nd Floor, Bramante Building, Renaissance Towers Ortigas, Meralco Avenue, Pasig City starting MONDAY (Sept.28) / 9am – 7pm Contact Person: Warren Habaluyas (+632929-8713488) or email at luzonrelief@gmail.com

17. Katipunan Avenue. Contact Erica Paredes at (+632917-4741930) — they need bread, packed juice, sandwich filling (tuna, chicken, anything) You can help her make them, deliver the sandwiches to her house, or help her distribute! Call for more details.

18. Citizens Disaster Response Center (CDRC): Relief goods for typhoon victims being accepted at 72-A Times St., West Triangle, QC. Tel (+632-9299820/22)

19. Tulong Bayan hotlines for donations and volunteers are (+632908-6579998) Marilyn, (+632939-3633436) Jenn (+632-9137122, +632-9136254 & +632-9133306).

20. AKBAYAN’s taking donations, call 433-69-33/433-68-31 to donate or volunteer.

21. Worldvision Foundation is also accepting donations/volunteers to pack relief goods in QC. For $donations, BPI:USDacct #4254-0050-08

22. Xavier School in San Juan is now accepting donations, please bring to Multipurpose Center (MPC).

23. Move for Chiz is asking for volunteers at Bay Park Tent, along Roxas Blvd., beside Max Restaurant and Diamond Hotel in Manila, or at Gilas Minipark at Unang Hakbang St., Gilas Q.C.

24. Sen. Kiko Pangilinan is accepting donations @ AGS Bldg Annex, 446 EDSA Guadalupe Viejo. Contact Vina Vargas at (+632917-8081247)

25. Operation Rainbow (Zac Faelnar Camara) at Ayala Alabang Village needs Canned Goods, Ready-To-Eat Food, Bottled Water, Ready-To-Drink Milk/ Juice, Clothing, Blankets, contact (+632-4687991)

Please call given contact details and find out how you can help.

Rescue Operations Contact Details

2009-09-29T10:58:00.000+08:00

These numbers would come in handy during the current and future disasters, specifically, related to typhoons and floods. These numbers have gone around blogosphere specially after September 26, 2009, when Typhoon Ondoy brought rains and flooding in and around the city. Photo of rescue by the Phil. Navy of a woman by Cherly Ravelo.

National Disaster Coordinating Council (NDCC)
(+632-9125668, +632-9111406, +632-9115061, +632-9122665)
Help hotlines: (+65 734-2118, 734-2120)

Philippine Coast Guard (+632-5276136)

Air Force (+63908-1126976, +632-8535023)

Metro Manila Development Authority (136)

Marikina City Rescue (+632-6462436, +632-6462423, +632920-9072902)

Pasig Rescue Emergency Number (+632-6310099)

Quezon City Rescue (161)

San Juan City Hall Command Post (+632-4681697)

Bureau of Fire Protection Region III (Central Luzon) Hotline: (+63245-9634376)

Philippine National Red Cross (143, +632-5270000)

Philippine National Red Cross Rizal Chapter operations center hotline: (+632-6350922, +632-6347824)

Senator Dick Gordon (+639178997898, +63938-444BOYS, +632-9342118, +632-4338528)

Senator Manny Villar (+639174226800. +639172414864, +639276751981)

Kim Clijsters as a winning mom

2009-09-15T16:22:00.002+08:00

She is the first mom to win a major title since Evonne Goolagong Cawley in 1980 at Wimbledon and Margaret Court in 1973. Photo by Emmanuel Dunnand of AFP / Getty Images.

Yup, at 26, Kim Clijsters achieved it a couple of days ago, with her win over Carolina Wozniacki in New York. The final score was 7-5, 6-3. And Chief and I saw the final minutes of the game as we were in the waiting room of the Heart Station, Makati Medical Center. She was scheduled for a thread mill test that Monday morning.

With her win, she pushed her up the WTA rankings. Now, she is 19th after 2 ½ years of retirement. And she had only played two tournaments after coming out of retirement.

"Little things like that are very special, because you never know how many more of those years you're going to have," Clijsters said.

She gave up the professional circuit a couple of years ago to focus on her family in Belgium. Any active professional player would know that toll that 4 Grand Slam Tournament takes, and not to mention the little tournaments in-between.

She is going home to be with her 18-month-old daughter Jada and husband Brian Lynch. "Obviously in Belgium things are going to be a lot more hectic now again for me when I get back home," Clijsters said a day after winning her second Grand Slam title. "I just want to make sure it doesn't influence Jada too much, that she still has that normal life."

Kim cites the important need to be happy and her presence at home and with her baby is a top priority. "First you need to be happy," Clijsters said. "As a mother now, everything around me needs to be happy before I can go out there and play good tennis and be relaxed on the court. … If all those things fall into place, then the results will follow automatically.

New reports say that the night before the final, Clijsters wasn't watching videotape of Wozniacki. She was watching "Ice Age" with Jada.

Being a parent comes first for Kim and her values at home and even on the court serves as an inspiration to many moms, not only tennis moms!

Zak

2009-01-28T21:56:00.000+08:00

Parenthood is a joy, a blessing. But sometimes, it brings pain and hurt. And tears.

Over the weekend, Grace and Max lost their second child, Zak. We know that Zak came into this world ahead of his time. A couple of months early and both parents had struggled to keep Zak alive. He went through some blood transfusion. I gave Grace my mom’s home number that in case Zak needed more blood. “Fresh blood” was what Zak needed, not blood that had been donated and kept in a freezer, probably due to the sensitivities of being a baby.

Last Tuesday afternoon, while I was in a client meeting at the Cisco office at Citibank building, I got an sms from Grace. Zak had died. That news really caught me by surprise. I sense of quiet dawned upon me.

I know in many ways Chief and I could relate. We had our taste of parenthood with Christian Gabriel. But CG didn’t live long enough go through nine months with Chief. I will never forget that day when we both cried at the parking lot, inside Shaq. Never.

And now, my friends, Grace and Max are going through their own loss.

There are really no words to describe the loss of someone in the family, and even more, the loss of a two-month old baby named Zak.

Wherever you are Zak, hope you are now resting in the hands of the Lord.

Thelma's Story

2009-01-26T21:37:00.000+08:00

Thelma walked into our lives last Sunday.

Chief and I went to Mass at St. John Bosco Church. We were a little late, just a few minutes as the celebration of Christ’s life started. We found ourselves a place at the last row. Infront of us, there was a little boy, maybe, 3 or 4 years old. Every time the boy would stand and look at us, he would smile at the people besides us but not smile at me? Hmmmmm. Maybe, I reminded him of someone at home who scolded him often? Maybe?

Later at home, Chief told me. “Maybe, he is adopted as he doesn’t look like his mother.” Another maybe? I recalled that he had curly hair and probably had some non-Pinoy heritage? Maybe, Indian?

After Mass, we went briefly to Rustan’s. Just some window-shopping. We were both having long working days. The Corp PR 2 team was still short-handed but we were looking forward to Melissa joining our team soon. Chief was extra busy too. Getting less sleep. Often, patience is challenged on days like this. Stretched and stressed.

As we got home and about the enter the elavator from the basement parking, Jinnie approached me. I said, “Sandali lang pare. Aakyat muna ako.” Chief had been waiting inside the elevator.

After a few minutes, I went out of our Greenhome and met up with Jinnie at the basement parking. He started to tell me the story of Thelma.

Happy brthday CG

2009-01-17T10:23:00.001+08:00

Today is CG’s birthday. Yes, today, Saturday could have been a big celebration as Christian Gabriel would have turned two years old. But CG moved on ahead and now watches over us. Often, when Chief can’t find a parking spot in Powerplant Mall, she would ask CG for help and suddenly, a slot would be available. Me? I always ask CG to keep watch over Chief as she drives and sometimes, shed a tear when we play the song, “You’re having my baby” by Paul Anka.

Still, after my classes at UST, I will quickly head to our Greenhome and pick up Chief so we can go to Mass at St. John Bosco Church along Pasay Road. This church has always been a refuge for us ever since we got back from Vietnam in 2001. It was here where we shared with Him the blessings of parenthood a couple of years ago. And also, picked up Fr. Armand one Sunday evening after his 8:30pm Mass. He counseled us on our lost. But not really our lost as we know that CG continues to be present in our lives, everyday. We ended at Starbucks at Greenbelt 1 that night.

Tonight, Chief and I will say a quiet prayer for our baby who gave us a taste of parenthood! We love you dearly and miss those moments when we shared your presence with our families, relatives and friends.

Finding Christ through a crisis

2009-01-01T10:07:00.001+08:00

Last New Year’s Eve, we attended Mass at Makati Shangrila and heard Fr. Larry’s words about the holidays and the current economic crisis the world faces. He told the crowd to find Christ through the crisis. And must admit that those words caught my attention. Yup, there is a crisis brewing and people say that it was going to get worse before it gets any better. Hopefully not!

Guess, we should always be counting our blessings and appreciate these gifts from Christ, specially, the gift of family and friends… and of good health and a stable career. Chief and I have been blessed since we returned from Vietnam after our five year “tour of duty.”

We have been blessed with a tease of parenthood with Christian Gabriel who now watches over us. Often, when we are in desperate search of a parking slot in Greenbelt or Rockwell, we would call out to CG to help lead us to a vacant spot… and really, soon enough, we would find a space.

This year, we are still hopeful that Raphael will soon join our lives and get a rare experience parenthood again.

Through the celebration, Fr. Larry kept his sermon as simple and as relevant as possible, often giving reference to the current economic and political environment.

And we hope that after his sermon last Wednesday night, everyone has stronger faith that change will lead to better lives, specially, for those who have less in life.

Happy new year everyone!

A few hours before Christmas Eve

2008-12-24T17:06:00.004+08:00

This is how our Greenhome looks on the night before Christmas.

It is Christmas clutter at our greenhome that will help spread good cheer to families and friends.

It is a few hours before Christmas and am scribbling these holiday cheer from our kitchen. From where I seat, the street across our Legazpi Greenhome is empty. Not a single car is parked. The windows of the call center at the building across are closed. The blinds cover any activity going on. Guess, none. Only a couple of cars are parked in the parking area below.

Earlier, I quickly passed by Don Bosco to pick up desk calendars with artworks of Joey Velasco. (Photo of Joey Velasco besides his famous painting from http://joeyvelasco.com) Joey received the 2008 Blessed Philip Rinaldi Servant Leader award. I had written about his work in Code RED, which was publsihed last December 2007. He received the award last December 6 during the 9th Asia-Australia Congress of Past Pupils of Don Bosco program held in Pampanga.

Guess, it was really God’s plan to allow me to catch up with Fr. Armand Robleza, SBD. Earlier, from work I called and talked to Madz Nayve to make reservation for those calendars. She told me that she would just leave the calendars and extra copies of the current issue of Code RED at the reception. I knew that I wasn’t going to make it earlier at Don Bosco because of work.

Yup, I am still working through this day as I needed to get a draft proposal read by client soonest. Plus, a couple of publicity materials out for CITEM. Work cut into our planned visit to Greg’s place for the annual “Cotyfest” in honor of Tita Coty Cobangbang. We missed that event last year as Chief and I were in the States and now, we are missing it again due to work.

Anyway, back to Fr. Armand. He was preparing to leave the compound and visit his mom and family in Antipolo for noche buena. We did get to talk for a few minutes, updating him on the challenges and concern Grace and Max were having for their new baby, Zak, who has been in and out of the hospital. And we talked about our parents and their relationship with their children.

Plus, about the rush for shopping. “They have their own way of packing and preparing gifts,” says Fr. Armand. He is referring to wives and how husbands like me get out of the way of their wives during Christmas shopping.

The only shopping I did this season are the calendars by Joey Velasco and the Swatch I got for Chief last Sunday.

Happy holidays everyone!

Coffee at Chateau 1771

2008-12-23T23:30:00.005+08:00

Earlier, Chief and I caught up with Bingo and Mila Pantaleon at Greenbelt 5. Manny Gabutina and his son, Jag, dropped us off at Greenbelt where Chief and I could have dinner. Actually, we were just tamad to cook and prepare food at home. We still had paksiw na lechon at home. But really, just tamad. Hehehe. And besides, it was a couple of days before Christmas eve and I felt tonight was the rare night Chief and I would have together this season as reunions lie ahead for the next few days.

We ended up at Le Maison in Greenbelt 5. It was a little crowded. And the “macho chops” I ordered had run out. Huh? Albert, the waiter explained that the last piece had been ordered. Huh? He gave a recommendation but I opted for calamari (friend squid). It was little too "cracked" meaning a little too breaded... that it had sharp corners and service from the corner where we sat a little to slow. But still a good place to dine. Anyway, am not a food critic. This was our second time here. Our first dining experience was last August... my birthday.

Into our dinner, we both get text messages from Bingo and Mila… asking if we were free for coffee? That was perfect timing and advised them that we were just in Le Maison having dinner. Around 9pm, both were standing in front of us.

It was great to see good friends again!

We moved to Chateau 1771 for coffee and desserts. Mila noticed that I quickly talked to Hazel, the receptionist. I actually just mentioned to her that EON had it’s Christmas party at this restaurant only last Friday and she said that she remembered me. Actually, just PR. Chateau 1771 in Greenbelt 5 and is open until 11 p.m. for dinner on Fridays and Saturdays. For inquiries, ask for Hazel but dont mention my name. You can call 729-9760 or 0917-862-6467. One day soon, I would like to taste their grilled king prawns. Photos from www.3mddigitalsolutions.com/chateau

Mila proudly showed off pictures from Unilab’s anniversary “Warrior” event. Both she and Bingo were wearing Indonesian inspired costumes. Both shared kuwentos about the parade that showcased its heritage and growth. Symbolic items like the first cash register, the first Unilab product package, etc. was passed on to the current leaders of the company.

It quickly brought back memories of how our own friendship grew since those days back in Saigon, when Chief was with McCann Erickson Vietnam and Bingo was Marketing Director of United Pharma.

Today, we hope to visit them in Jakarta next year but for now, also hope to catch up with Maribel Regino.

After coffee, Chief and I walked home while both rushed to Rockwell for last minute midnight shopping.

Waffles at Flapjacks

2008-12-21T09:13:00.003+08:00

It is the last weekend before Christmas.

Last Saturday night, Chief was busy… busy packing and wrapping gifts for families, relatives and friends. I met up with Chief at Greenbet 1 where she bought some gift bags at National Book Store.

Later, she wanted to have merienda at Flapjacks. This restaurant in Greenblet holds beautiful memories for Chief and I, as well as my cousins, who were here from the East Coast last June 2008. Photo shows Renelle, Ben and Patrick, and their mom, Tita Nenen, and Cecile and Gil, and Fritzi Pilar.

Actually, only she had merienda, which was really a late lunch for her. She had eggs and corned beef. Me? Just waffles but my order of waffles never came as their machine “broke down.”

Chief said that waffles and pancakes was supposedly their “core competency.” And how could that happen? We got a little disappointed as the waitress, Jen, didn’t even bother to inform us that my order would be taking extra long or wouldn’t be served at all. It was until Tom, who had greeted us earlier, advised us that the waffle machine was not working and offered a replacement. Huh? Chief had nearly finished her food.

So, we paid the bill and before we could raise our complaint to the next level, Tom had offered three pancakes for free. Good PR really but they should advice Jen to be a little more sensitive to customers. After all, there were only two couples when we were there and that really is not much work. Maybe, she was rushing out through her shift to get some Xmas shopping done?

I told Tom as we were leaving, “May utang ka sa akin na waffles.” And they greeted us Merry Christmas!

Pacquiao Quick Facts

2008-12-12T20:54:00.002+08:00

Am sure many families stayed at home last Sunday to watch Pacquiao defeat dela Joya. And with his win, even a few more parents named their babies Manny or even Pacquiao. And his success gives more meaning to Filipino pride.

Here are some quick facts about his recent win, specially, his presence on HBO.

1. According to HBO, the fight at the MGM Grand Garden in Las Vegas generated about 1.25 million pay-per-view buys.

2. It is only the fourth time a non-heavyweight bout in the US reached at least one million. Interesting to note that Oscar De La Hoya has been in the ring in all the four fights.

3. Pacquiao will get an estimated gross amount worth $11.2 million or P548.8 million from the above earnings. Can you imagine how many poor families that amount can feed for one year?

4. Pacquiao’s previous pay-per-view high was 405,000 buys registered last April in his rematch against Juan Manuel Marquez.

5. It is his birthday on December 17! He is turning 30.

6. Guess who gave him a carrot cake decorated with a red boxing glove and a green boxing belt with the inscription "World’s No. 1 Pound-for-Pound Fighter."

7. He has the World Boxing Council (WBC) Flyweight, International Boxing Federation Super Bantamweight, WBC Super Featherweight, and WBC Lightweight world titles. And the first Asian to do it!

8. He lost to incumbent Rep. Darlene Antonino-Custodio, when he ran as congressman in South Cotabato’s first district in 2007. I hope he doesn’t make his presence in politics. He only be used by “trapos.”

9. His first name is Emmanuel.

10. He rode a 22-foot float for a motorcade-parade in General Santos City

Steps in Bohol

2008-11-06T13:23:00.001+08:00

On our first day in Tagbilaran, Bohol last 31 October one of our first stops is the site of the blood compact between the Spanish king conquistador Miguel López de Legazpi and Filipino native of Bohol, Datu Sikatuna.

The blood compact between the two leaders happened in 1564 or 1565 (different dates based on which book one reads), when Spain dispatched more expeditions to set colonies in the Far East. Remember, the Spaniards were competing against the Portuguese.

One of the expeditions, led by Miguel Lopez de Legazpi reached the Philippines in the beginning of 1565, and established a Spanish settlement. He tried to land Cebu but was thwarted. To make the long historical story short… he met up two chiefs of Bohol, Datu Sikatuna of Bool and Datu Sigala of Loboc. He convinced (or misled) the leaders that they came in peace.

Termed in Spanish as “pacto de sangre,” a blood compact is an ancient custom or ritual where two people drink each other's blood to seal a friendship, a pact or treaty.

And on 16 March 1565 (or 25 March?) Legazpi and Sikatuna undertook the now famous blood compact. Today, this in Bohol every year as "One Blood" festival.

For me and Chief, our “blood compact” started last 05 November 2001 when we took the steps of our lives at Ho Chi Minh City and was blessed by Fr. Pads. The compact will last until all future becomes past. But no blood involved.

The steps to Bohol are part of our 7th year blessing.

Teriyaki and Nuggets

2008-10-24T20:57:00.003+08:00

Am home alone this weekend. Chief is spending the weekend at her home in Cavite. Me? Thesis sessions with my CFAD students tomorrow and some blogging tonight. And will watch the anniversary episode of “Bubble Gang.” Hehe.

Manny picked up Chief at our Greenhome in the heart of Legazpi Village. They dropped me off at McDonald’s Greenbelt 1 where am now having dinner. Having Chicken Nuggets and Spaghetti and Coke Zero, without ice, inside the “Hamburger Room” here at McDonald’s. But the lights are much brighter here to get some online work done.

Really would have wanted to eat at Teriyaki Boy tonight, but Chief and I have eaten there lately… most recently, last night. Like before, I got Ika Fry... really just deep-fried squid. Guess, we just miss having lunch at our favorite “Sushi Bar” a Japanese restaurant in Saigon, where one could have unlimited miso soup. At Teriyaki Boy a cup costs 40 pesos. We would rather buy the frozen soup at a Japanese store at Waltermart. Hehe.

I know I have not seen Chief’s parents for the past couple of months nor have visited my own mom for the past few weeks. Work should really not be a reason to spend time with our parents. Really do need a better work and life balance. Plus, exercise too!

But by Sunday morning, I promised to take Chief out for a date.

Happy birthday Minnie

2008-09-15T20:14:00.000+08:00

Yesterday was the birthday of my youngest sister, Minnie. She is now living and working in Alberta, Canada. She moved out of our home in BF Paranaque to pursue a career and some independence.

In the summer of 2005, Minnie visited us in Saigon and was able to meet up with Patrick Velez. Both have not seen each other since the 70s. It was a reunion for both cousins. Maybe, next time Patrick and Minnie will meet in the Big Apple and watch the “Lion King” on Broadway.

Or maybe, Chief and I get to visit my sister in Alberta?

Until then, happy birthday loving sister!

Presence Lost in 9/11

2008-09-11T18:40:00.003+08:00

Nearly the presence of 3,000 men, women and children were lost in 2001 when four commercial planes attacked different locations in the United States. Today, those events are called 9/11.

Chief and I were in our 1st Greenhome at Tran Nhat Duat, District 1, Ho Chi MInh City when CNN broke the news that the World Trade Center had crumbled to the ground, the Pentagon had been attacked and a third plane crashed in the fields.

We had just returned from work and couldn’t believe what was happening across the United States. We quickly thought of our cousins who were based in New York City and stayed up all night glued to CNN.

Much have been written about the men and women who died that day, specially the members of FDNY and NYPD. Documentaries and even a movie had been made in their memory. Am sure more entries in thousands of blogs on-line have paid tribute to these heroes.

Yes, the passengers American Airlines Flight 11, United Airlines Flight 175, American Airlines Flight 77 and United Airlines Flight 93 are among these heroes, together with the other men and women on the ground and the buildings struck by these planes.

They represented over 90 nationalities across the world. Even today, people, including rescue workers suffer from lung disease brought about by extended exposure to dust from the WTC rubble.

West Side Story

2008-09-10T20:46:00.004+08:00

Last Sunday afternoon, Chief and I went to watch the local version of “West Side Story.” I really don’t remember watching the 1961 movie version with Natalie Wood
Richard Beymer and Rita Moreno. But I do remember that Fr. James Reuter, SJ had done versions of this popular Broadway production in St. Paul College, QC. I think Nano Regalado, a Mass Comm student, played Maria.

But this Sunday afternoon, Chief and I were watching this production with mom and Miguel. We had gotten four tickets, courtesy of Jeannie Javelosa. She was also taking her parents to watch this play, but unfortunately, we didn’t see her at Meralco Theatre.

Personally, I had mom go with us as she really needed to be brought out of the house and enjoy life more. Work had been tying me down lately, even on weekends and I wanted to spend more time with my mom. Dad had died in June 2001 while Chief and I were in Vietnam. Plus, spend time with Miguel too.

I had told Miguel to wear jeans as initially he was wearing shorts. Hehehe. I told him that it was a formal program, with people dressed up for the event. When we got to the lobby, I said, “Tignan mo iyon mga tao… walang naka shorts.” Really just to emphasize what I told him earlier. In fact, Cecile also asked me to wear a shirt with collar. Hehehe.

West Side Story is a musical collaboration of Leonard Bernstein (music), and Stephen Sondheim (lyrics). Did you know that it was based on William Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet?

The story tells the rivalry of two gangs in Manhattan’s West Side during the mid-50s. I think it was specifically set in Hell’s Kitchen? Not sure. But my cousin, Patrick, had brought Cecile and I around that block when we were in the Big Apple last December 2007.

Won’t tell the love story of Tony (played by Christian Bautista) and Maria or the tragic ending. Ironically, some of the audience laughed towards the end as they heard the sound effect of gun shot.

Probably the most popular song out of this musical is “Maria.” I whispered to Miguel that he should take note of this song. As the musical moved forward, we heard other songs like "America," "Somewhere," "Tonight," “Cool” and "I Feel Pretty." I remember I heard Jack Nickolson hum that tune in the 2003 movie "Anger Management."

The 1957 Broadway production ran for 732 performances and earned a Tony Award nomination for Best Musical. “The Music Man” eventually went to get that award in 1957. It did win an award for choreography.

In 1961, a movie version was directed by Robert Wise and Jerome Robbins. Did you know that Robbins, who directed the stage version, was fired because the movie’s budget had gone overboard? Still, the film won 10 Academy Awards including Best Picture.

This local stage version probably won’t win any awards or get a lot of praises, but it would surely help strengthen the ties between parents and children who shared the music and the story of Tony and Maria. I know Miguel will look back years from now and probably hum one of the tunes from West Side Story.

Mom's Long Weekend

2008-08-30T20:38:00.000+08:00

It was a long weekend. Supposedly to celebrate the martyrdom of Benigno Aquino. It is sometimes hard to accept a celebration which actually not celebrated on the day it happened. But celebration or not, hardworking men and women would gladly take any holiday. And this long weekend, mom, Violet, Miguel, Chief and I went out to Angeles City, Pampanga to visit Tita Celia.

I only pushed Shaq up to around 120 kph. Couldn’t push him more as family was riding with me and there had been slight drizzle.

We arrived in Angeles City around 11am and Tita Celia was waiting out in the porch. We were all surprised to see her, as she had been bed-ridden for the past months. She had recovered very well. Praises to God!

Tita Celia’s eldest daughter, Baby, had prepared lunch. Shrimps and fried chicken and sinigang. Nothing fancy but hot and filling for everyone at the dining table.

Two of mom’s cousins had joined us for this trip. It was sort of a homecoming for the two senior ladies. All through the drive, we could hear “kapangpangan” words and I know that my mom felt extra good using her native dialect. Nobody at home really picked up to learn “kapangpangan.” And I knew she had been looking forward to this long weekend with Chief and myself.

One of them really reminds us of Love Abergas, Olwen’s mom, who at her age, looks and acts and speaks like a young teenage lady. This year she is turning a milestone. 70.

Will Chief and I get lucky to make a U.S. trip in December? Maybe?

The Biggest Laughs

2008-08-17T01:55:00.005+08:00

Tonight, we shared the biggest laughs at Granwood Villas as friends got together to celebrate friendship and family. Cesar and Amvic Pareja. Jeanette and Resty Reyes. Matess Salviejo. Jeff Enriquez. Rommel and Madelaine Cecilio. Alain Carag. Bob Novales (minus Monch who is currently in New Jersey) Bong Lopez. And Chief and myself... plus the guest of honor, Olwen Abergas, shared laughs and cup cakes!

Photo shows Matess, Marivic and Olwen (and what is left of callos and Coke) laughing as Cesar "talks to a house" in Puerto Galera. Many years ago, we all went to Puerto Galera for a weekend. Years before the Parejas were parents.

Photo shows Jeanette and Alain laughing as they review pictures taken from Olwen's Sony digital camera.

47

2008-08-10T12:37:00.001+08:00

Just turned 47. Wow... nearing the 50th milestone. But for this weekend, am just enjoying the fluffy linen and pillows at Makati Shnagrila Hotel, Room 1519 with Chief.

Saying Goodbye

2008-07-27T09:19:00.001+08:00

The Velez cousins at St. Peter's Cathedral after saying goodbye to Tito Rene.

The relatives and friends of Tita Nenen also came to say goodbye to Tito Rene.

Miguel and EJ at Sonya's Garden

2008-07-04T19:16:00.002+08:00

It was back in the mid-90s when Miguel and EJ first met up with each other. Renelle, Edgar and EJ had made a trip to the Philippines and had lunch at our home.

Fast forward to 2008 and EJ and Miguel meet up again. Now, a few pounds heavier and inches taller. Miguel is now in first year high school and EJ has probably given up collecting trains and now plays soccer? Or maybe, baseball?

Here are pictures as they goof and play around in Sonya’s Garden, where the cousins and Tita Nenen and my mom shared a sumptuous lunch.

Hidden among the hills past Tagaytay, Sonya’s Garden gives rest and quiet to many tired and hardworking professionals (like Chief and I) to enjoy the garden and the food… and the open space.

For many balikbayan families, Sonya’s Garden is a memorable place to visit and experience the cuisine of organically grown vegetables and ingredients, all served fresh everyday. Plus, bottomless dalandan juice and turon (my favorite)

While Miguel and EJ would have probably preferred McChicken... for now, they will share pasta and salad with us, Renelle, Benjamin, Patrick, Violet, Chief and I!

Cousins Presence in Tagaytay

2008-06-30T15:06:00.001+08:00

Will soon scribble stories of our family's visit to Sonya's Garden in Tagaytay, actually, in Batangas already, last Sunday.

TIto Rene coming home

2008-06-22T08:41:00.003+08:00

Tito Rene is coming home. On Tuesday, his ashes will be brought back by my cousins, Renelle, Benjamin and Patrick and their mom. It is a homecoming as it had been his wish to be buried here in the Philippines. Fortunately, Cecile and I still had a chance to talk to him and see him smile when we visited the US last December.

He moved on a few weeks ago. I always use the word “move on” whenever a love one passes away because I believe they really never leave us. Always around us in our minds and hearts. My dad moved on ahead, last June 2001, when Chief and I were in Vietnam.

Am often in tears when I scribble words about him as it does bring back memories of my dad. They are brothers and I guess, by now, both are looking down upon us, also smiling and maybe, excited as their sons and daughters will be sharing a few days together in Manila.

Photo taken last January 2005 during our first visit to the States. My cousins, Renelle, Ben and Patrick with their mom and dad and me! Chief took this photo.

We miss you dad and Tito Rene!

Father's Day

2008-06-15T22:08:00.001+08:00

Today is father’s day! And special greetings to our parents, my dad, Hector Velez, who moved on last June 2001 and Chief’s dad, Edwin Gabutina, who continues to move around the Odyssey Record Bars in search of his favorite music.

Earlier, we brought Mom and Dad Gabutina to SM Bacoor for lunch and some shopping. We arrived around 11:30am and the more popular restaurants were already packed. SRO. Max’s Restaurant. Jollibee. Gerry’s Grill. Barrio Fiesta had a couple of free tables and we quickly settled down. Chief ordered grilled squid, lechon kawali (which was really nice and tender), plus boulla baise, a seafood based soup. That was good but the management refused to give us an extra soup bowl. Could have been good PR for Barrio Fiesta?

In a few minutes, the place was packed and we were enjoying our food. Service was a little slow and disorganized. Mom’s “sago and gulaman” never arrived.

Later in the afternoon, Chief and I visited dad at the cemetery. Prayed the rosary. We noticed there were a of people today. Guess, like us, families were visiting their own dads who had moved on.

Wherever you are dad, I miss you. And love you.

Dad

2008-06-05T11:31:00.002+08:00

Yesterday was the day my dad moved on. I miss you dad.

Champion Kids

2008-05-25T21:12:00.002+08:00

My team and thousands of kids and parents were in Aliw Theatre and Star City today for the Kiddie Crew Event of McDonald's Philippines. These kids have learned many important values in their early life as they became part of the McDonald's crew through summer. It was also a whole day of fun and prizes... and all the excitement of the rides and games inside Star City.

Photo shows the five Champion kids who will represent McDonalds in the 2008 Beijing Olympics.

45 years

2008-05-18T08:41:00.002+08:00

Happy Anniversary to Edwin and Auring Gabutina, our parents and who have been parents for 45 years to Edwin, Cecile (my wife), Manny and Minnie. Photo shows Cecile, Dad, Juluis Gabutina, Mom Gabutina and Minnie. Seen in the background is Jag Gabutina (in a white jacket)as he walks back to Shaq.

This Anniversary date was celebrated at Antonio's Grill, Tagaytay. Manny and Vangie Gabutina brought their three kids, with Jag hitching a ride with us. Mom and Dad also rode with us.

Photo shows dad and mom enjoying lunch.

Angelo and Aileen just called from Hongkong to greet their parents. Photo shows Dad talking on the phone to Angelo.

There was a slight drizzle as we arrived in Tagaytay. One really needs to arrive before 11:30am if one wants to get seats in any restaurant here.

At Antonio's Grill, we arrived with only a few guests... that there were four waiters attending to us. But by noon, the place was full and service slowed down. The food? Hmmmmm. The boys liked the chicken. I enjoyed the crispy pata but everyone agreed that the squid was "like rubber." Mahirap kainin. We wanted crispy kangkong but they didn't have it. Why? The sisig? Dencio's and Trelli's still taste better! At least soup was hot and bottomless.

Happy 45 years to mom and dad... and Manny's "Anniversary AVP" would capture the feeling and emotion we have for our parents!

Happy Mother's Day

2008-05-12T07:58:00.002+08:00

Photo shows Chief and myself just outside Cafe Wah in New York City last December 2003. It was our first trip to the States and we were both extra excited to be traveling to this part of the world. But today, there is a different kind of excitement for all the mothers in the world.

Yup, happy mother's day to my mom, Meya Velez, and my wife, Cecile Velez! Words are not really enough to express my appreciation for the love and affection my mom and my wife have shown and showered through the years.

Though, sometimes, they can be makulit, but I guess, it is just their way of showing they care for me.

Hector and Rene Velez

2008-04-30T18:13:00.001+08:00

Last 18 April 2008 was my dad’s birthday! He “moved on” last June 4, 2001 while Cecile and I were still living and working in Vietnam. I could never forget the last words he told me as I left that morning in April 2001. He said, “Baka di mo na ako abutan pagbalik mo.” True enough, we received an early Monday morning call at our 1st Greenhome in Tran Nhat Duat. Dad had moved on. And the next day, I was on a flight back to Manila.

Last January 2004, during our first trip to the East Coast, Cecile and I surprised my ninong, Rene Velez (dad’s eldest brother) with a visit in New Jersey. And he was indeed surprised, even close to tears. He said to me, “Akalain mo, ditto pa tayo magkikita ulit.” A few days ago, I received a text message from Patrick asking me to call New Jersey and missed calls from Renelle. Those were more than enough signs. And true enough, I called and talked to Tita Nenen and Renelle (my cousin). He, too, had moved on.

Both brothers have “moved on” to beyond life here on earth. They are probably side by side, watching me scribble these words. Hopefully, happy and smiling that both had lived a full life with their families here.

Now, our last visit to the East Coast last December 2007 was made even more memorable as it was the last time, I would see Tito Rene smile. Even though he was sick and in bed, Cecile and I, knew that he was really more than happy to see us. I also saw tears in his eyes.

Thank you for being good parents to us, all of us, from New York to Makati.

We will miss you both!

Visiting Daet, Camarines Norte

2008-04-27T19:11:00.003+08:00

Since Saturday morning, Miguel and I have been in Daet, Camarines Norte. We arrived here around 5am, Saturday morning via a Philtranco bus which left Pasay City Friday night. Around 8 hours by bus.

We are currently staying with Robert and Cely Pilar but will be moving out Monday morning as both would be going to Manila.

Photo shows Miguel in front of the municipal town marker.

It is Miguel's first visit in my dad's hometown or his lolo's hometown. It is homecoming to Miguel's grandfather's roots. Going around the city to meet many relatives for the first time. For me, needing to attend and get updated on dad's property agrarian issues.

Our appreciation goes to Robert and Cely Pilar for the kind and warm accommodation. Photo shows us with Tito Dasoy and Tita Ludy and Robert and Cely Pilar outside the front door of their home in Daet.

Parenting in Tagaytay

2008-04-08T11:34:00.009+08:00

Trey Novales. Miguel Pareja. What do they have in common? They are my “inaanaks” with my best friends, Bob and Monch Novales and Cesar and Marivic Pareja. And last weekend, Chief and I had witnessed and experienced how our good friends have raised their kids as we shared a weekend at Crosswinds Tagaytay. This photo above was taken by Trey. And below, he also took a picture of his mom and dad.

Photo shows Rad and Trey and their PSP. Photo was taken by Iya Pareja. Trey took fancy with my Canon “Rebel” DSLR and snapped more pictures than I actually did. Maybe, around 100 pictures. At least, I didn’t have to worry about the cost of a roll of film. I told Trey that his dad used to be a photo hobbyist himself, back in UST and the boy seemed to have picked up the hobby.

Photo taken by Trey from the second floor attic of the vacation house of Bob's brother at Crosswinds, Tagaytay.

Monch always cautioned Trey while he was holding the camera, fearing that the boy might drop or damage the camera. I didn’t worry a bit and was more glad to see Trey taking an interest in photography. I gave him so tips and directions in taking landscape pictures while Matess shared some minutes on close-up photography.

Miguel was off to Boracay for his own holiday vacation, so it was only Iya who shared the weekend of Red Dog. We were teasing Cesar as he couldn’t say the “magic words” to Miguel as he was boarding his flight to Boracay. But we were sure that Cesar shows and expresses his love in more ways and words! Photo of Cesar and Marivic Pareja with their daughter Iya taken by Trey Novales just a few minutes before we were all scheduled to go back to Manila. We decided to leave mid-afternoon as we were anticipating many other urbanites returning from a long weekend.

For Chief and myself, this weekend in Tagaytay was another eye-opener as we continue to dream about being parents one day. If CG was alive today, CG would surely have added extra smiles for this weekend!

Miguel Graduates

2008-03-26T20:59:00.009+08:00

Photo shows Miguel waiting and teasing around with his classmates (Rayu-ta, Joffer, Sean and Luis) just an hour before the graduation of the 20th batch of Veritas Parochial School graduates. We arrived at the Church around 8am.

Still playing around with a female classmate, Jica Diego, as they wait for the big moment before the start of the graduation ceremonies. Holy Mass was scheduled to start at 9am.

His mom (and my sister) Violet takes a picture of Miguel as they wait. Violet had been waiting for this day for six years. Now, it was just less than an hour away!

The sixth grade students wait in line just and wait for the graduation march. Behind them are entries and winners of an "on the spot" painting contest organized by the parish.

Now, graduation was just a few steps away for Miguel. I took this photo as I sat on the floor, directly in front of the first row and a few steps from the altar!

Finally the big moment as Miguel receives his diploma from Fr. Martinez and his class adviser, Ma'am Cecile. Now, Miguel is official through his elementary years and ready to face the bigger challenges of high school. My mom, Meya Velez, was extra happy to see Miguel graduate. She said that she had seen Carla Velez and Geneve Velez graduate
from the same school a few years ago. Now, the girls are living in California and Miguel is the only grandchild at home. Congratulations Miguel!

Practice Parenthood

2008-03-25T11:35:00.008+08:00

From Wednesday to Sunday last week, Chief and I were “parents” to Miguel Cuenco and Julius Gabutina, as we took the streets of Cagayan de Oro and the hot and cold springs of Camigiun. Both are our nephews. Miguel is the only son of Violet, my sister, while Julius is the eldest son of Manny and Vangie Gabutina. Photo shows Julius and Miguel at Sto. Nino Cold Spring in Camigiun Island. At first I didnt want to swim but I had to look over the two kids, while Nady, Rene, Christie and Chief enjoyed conversation and the warm summer breeze. There a lot of residents and visitors at the cold spring which was our first stop of our day-long island tour. Rental of the multi-cab is 1,800 pesos.

Must admit that it was a rare experience to be with Miguel and Julius. Somehow the parent instinct in us came out. Nady had observed that I would be the disciplinarian. More strict? Hmmm. Photo shows the boys with Chief and Christie inside the orange-colored multi-cab jeep that brought us around Camigiun Island.

We kept a close watch over them throughout the trip, specially, when they went swimming. I had to join them at the cold spring. And the hot spring and along the beach front in Mambajao. Photo shows me and Julius on the beach.

But along the coast, Rene and Nady kept the two boys company. Even playing with them.

But throughout the four days, Chief and I are sure they enjoyed the experience, learned a few things from the adults, discovered new places and food and became friends too.

Photo of everybody just outside the Seafood Restaurant where we enjoyed our first provincial lunch, after the one hour flight from Manila to Cagayan de Oro. We had grilled squid, pork adobo and the fishpen all around us!

Arrival in Cagayan de Oro

2008-03-24T12:27:00.003+08:00

Last Wednesday morning, we arrived in Cagayan de Oro, together with Rene Bernal and Nady Nacario, my best friends from UST Graduate School. Unfortunately, another friend, Christie Que, arrived late at the airport but was able to join us Thursday morning.

For this trip, two boys joined us. Miguel Cuenco, the only son of my sister, Violet and Julius Gabutina, the eldest son of Vangie and Manny Gabutina.

And for Cecile and myself, this vacation served as practice steps for parenthood.

Palm Sunday

2008-03-16T22:17:00.004+08:00

Palm Sunday is really one of the most important feast in the Catholic Church. For me, it is a joyous celebration of Christ’s triumphal entry into Jerusalem before His own Passion and Death on the cross. Photo shows the fresco "Entry of Christ into Jerusalem" by painter Franz Plattner found in the Holy Cross Parish Church in Zirl, Austria Photo source is Wikipedia.

Chief and I went to St. John Bosco Church for Palm Sunday Mass. Everyone had palms and early during the Mass, the palms were blessed by the priest.

According to the Catholic Encyclopedia, palm branches have been used by all nations as an emblem of joy and victory over enemies and in Christianity as a sign of victory over the flesh.

The palms are usually taken home by the faithful and used as a sacramental. These palms are preserved in prominent places in the house. Our palm now sits above a painting in our own living room.

The vestments for the day are deep scarlet red, the color of blood, indicating the supreme sacrifice Christ was entering Jerusalem.
The palms are saved in many churches to be burned the following year as the source of ashes used in Ash Wednesday services.

Parents in Camigiun

2008-03-05T23:36:00.003+08:00

On the 19th, Cecile and I will be traveling down to Cagayan de Oro with our friends, Rene Bernal, Nady Nacario and Christie Que. Plus, two young teens, Julius Gabutina and Miguel Cuenco. And for those four days in the south, we shall be like parents to our young nephews.

It would be our graduation gift for Miguel who is finishing his elementary years while an advanced birthday gift for Julius. For me and Cecile, it was a good chance to open the doors of communication to the two teens and expose them to more adult-oriented conversation and activity outside of their own homes.

All these are part of our parenthood steps.

Birthday Cheers

2008-03-03T15:49:00.005+08:00

Birthday cheers to my loving wife Cecile Gabutina-Velez. While we would have wanted a really nice and out of town birthday celebration, guess, we were both too tired to get out of Manila and settled for Greek food at CYMA Restaurant at Greenbelt 2.

The servings were enough for both us. Food was reasonably priced. A little too oily. I tried out the “Moussaka” which is a traditional eggplant based dish, with layers of meat. It was baked and layered. Should have taken a photo. “Moussaka” means chilled.

Service was a little slow but warm thanks to Sandy, who used to work for Segafredo, his warm and friendly service made the dining experience more memorable. The second floor dining area a little to cramp and tight.

Plus we would hear the Greek cheer "Opa!" as we dined in the second floor.

And since it was Chief’s birthday, Sandy gave us a scoop of ice cream. Nice gesture. “Flamming Mangoes” would be been a perfect freebee. Maybe, next time.

22 years ago

2008-02-25T14:27:00.003+08:00

22 years ago, a lot of young men and women, some just out of college, joined millions of Filipinos in EDSA to help bring down a dictatorship and bring democracy back to the Philippines.

Still many of the problems that plagued the country continue to exist today, 22 years after the first "People Power."

While I scribble these words at Starbucks, I look back to those four days in February and reflect how much change has resulted out of "people power." Yes, we all forced Marcos and his cronies out of the country, but still some of these cronies are within our midst, pretending, to be good parents wanting change for the country and their children.

I hope it won't take another 22 years to bring about change. It starts with us.

Parents at EDSA

2008-02-24T06:56:00.003+08:00

Back in the last days of February 1986, thousands of parents, joined other Filipinos, students and clergy to help bring an end to rule of the late Ferdinand Marcos and bring a new era of democracy to the country.

22 years later, many parents, who were probably,just out of college then, feel the economic crunch (despite the strong peso) and are angered over the "moderation of greed" and excessive corruption that plagues local politics.

Will people step up and forward for change?

V-day at home

2008-02-14T17:56:00.004+08:00

Now, am trying ti recall how Cecile and I have celebrated Valentine's Day through the years. I remember the most memorable Vday celebration was when we were back in Ho Chi Minh City where I spread out rose petals across our 3rd floor apartment in Tran Nhat Duat Street. I had made arrangements with a local Vietnamese florist (with the help of Minh Chau).

The florist brought a bundle of rose petals and she spread it from the entrance of our door, leading to the bedroom. There were also 14 long stem roses spread across our nearly 50sqm Greenhome.

I have forgotten what other gift I got Cecile.

But definitely, she got the gift of love!

Tonight, Cecile will get a couple of framed photographs from two good students, Sainah Alonzo and Kharren Cabais, which would symbolize the love we share.

Happy Valentine’s Chief!

Making parents proud

2008-02-14T14:11:00.006+08:00

So far, so good. All my thesis students so far have successfully defended and passed their thesis, which started last Monday.

Yup, after nearly a year of consultation with my 17 students, the day of reckoning has arrived. It was really like handling and developing 17 campaigns for different brands.

Even, when Cecile and I were in the States, interaction with the students continued, thanks to yahoo messenger. Probably not as much as my students, I did have my share of long nights, plus frustrations and disappointments.

Now, cheers and smiles for most of my students. Gian Nealega was first to bring home the bacon. His thesis on “green IT” by Hewlett Packard had earned the right to be part of thesis exhibit next year. Cecile had already predicted that Gian’s work would be recognized. While the creatives were not “fantastic” Gian’s confidence and presentation style would convince the three jury well and good.

Only two had some initial troubles. Patricia Parreno and Lyan Go, who didn’t have their thesis books on hand on the day of defense. I quickly defended saying “The students definitely don’t deserve to fail because their thesis books had been delayed as all their creative materials were produced and mounted.” It really easy to match what they were saying with the ppt presentations and the creative materials. “At the very least, they could earn a ceiling grade.”

Today, Marianne Quan (Play-Doh Event) and Eia Belveder (Justice League) are in-line to present their work.

Am confident they will do good and make their parents proud. And that would be a really nice Valentine’s present to their parents! And to Cecile too!

My cousin Renelle

2008-02-13T17:29:00.008+08:00

This scribbles are about my cousin Renelle. Wait, sounds like a title of a movie, "My Cousin Vinny!" But photo shows me with Renelle and Patrick.

Renelle is mom to EJ. The eldest of the kids of Tito Rene (my dad’s only brother) and Tita Nenen. Am not sure how old she is? How young are you Nel? Yup, she recently celebrated her birthday. Am sure she had a memorable date with someone special.

Last December 2007, Cecile and I spent a couple of days at her home in Demarest, New Jersey. She also got us (and Patrick) tickets to the Nets and Pistons game. My first-ever NBA game.

She also baked chocolate cookies for us on our last lunch at her home, our last weekend in the States. Even my mom and Violet got a taste of her home-cooked chocolate chips.

I won’t forget the smile in her face when we arrived at her home last 24 December 2007 to surprise her mom and dad. She was jumping up and down outside her door like a little girl. And it was cold winter night that evening. She hugged us tight that swept away the cold.

Back in 2003, she also treated us to watch “AIDA” plus a nice commemorative T-shirt. I remember that Japanese restaurant we first had dinner, on the way to her home in New Jersey. She cried as she opened up her heart and life to us. I felt weak and unable to help.

Now, she has moved on and forward with her life. EJ had grown big and has a rabbit in his room.

As we soon celebrate Valentine’s Day, Cecile and I share our love with Renelle Velez. Happy birthday cousin! May you be blessed with good health and happiness!

Parents and Thesis

2008-02-13T17:29:00.007+08:00

Some parents joined their sons and daughters as Advertising students from CFAD presented their thesis today, yesterday and tomorrow.

I met parents of John Patulan. He had worked with the agency through summer. And he was working the blue Mickey Mouse neck-tie we had given him last year. His mom said, “Thank you for giving John work last summer.”

Through thesis, I also met the parents of Chico Paola Santos (The Real Ems) and Marianne Quan (Playdoh Event).

Plus, the parents of Chesca Genato, when the thesis 2K8 team spent a whole day of creative brainstorming at their house in Cubao, Quezon City. Yup, just walking distance from Immaculate Concepcion Parish School, where I studied through my primary years. I remember Fr. Kutcher and Fr. De Castro. Need to blog about those years soon.

Through the corridors of the 4th floor of Beato Angelico Building, some parents gave their full support and many words of prayers for their sons and daughters. Guess, through these past months, I, too, have been kind of a “father” to some of my students.

Good luck to Chico Santos, Marianne Quan, Chesca Genato, Karla Torricer, Lloyd Querijero, Gian Nealega, Kristine Buendia, Migs Gutierrez, Kristel Leonardo, Asia Parreno, Lyan Go, Jeeno David, Jacklyn Remo, Andrea Ong, Eia Belveder, Jessamine Javier and Christine Kiac

Nestle Team in the house

2008-02-09T02:04:00.007+08:00

Yes, the McCann Erickson Nestle team were at our Greenhome this Friday night up to early Saturday morning for a nice long dinner with pasta and red wine and lots of kuwentos in-between. From left to right, Minela Mirafelix, Mutch Wright, Cris Dar Santos, Chief, Laura Dorotheo, Judy Buenviaje and Cha Golpeo. Not in photo is Aida Baizas who came in after the photo was taken.

Each of the ladies had stories to share and tell and laugh about, whether it was related to work or simply everyday life inside the country’s biggest advertising agency, McCann Erickson. They had come from work, even as far as Los Banos, Laguna or as near as ABS-CBN. Me? I came from a long line of people at DFA, getting my own passport renewed for my business trip to Singapore for the EMC APJ PR Summit.

It was really a post-xmas gathering for the Nestle team of McCann Erickson. Chief got a Gourdo’s spaghetti cookware gift set. And as a small token to our guests, we gave each a pair of chopstick from Vietnam.

Since we didn't have a maid at home, using paper plates was the better alternative, except for the wine glasses. Cecile brought out a couple of bottles of red wine. Food was delivered and came early. Around 7pm. I particularly liked the "turon" with the strawberry sauce.

After dinner (honey-glaced chicken, pesto pasta, etc), the team got a special screening of our love story which had been featured in “Mel and Joey” last November and later, more peaks into our personal lives. Curious? You would have to ask one of the ladies above to find out why Cecile and I call each other Chief and Cukie.

I said that the team should be doing this every quarter. Maybe, make it like “themed parties?’ Really good for the team spirit with a little bit of fun and teasing, as they each get to know Cecile better, outside of her "mamu" role at MEP.

Now, they tease her "chief" and would greet her every week, saying...

Tagaytay Wedding

2008-02-04T16:35:00.000+08:00

Last 2001, our friends cheered Cecile and I for a "wedding" at the Cellar Mansions in Tagaytay.

Vodka In Her Hand

2008-01-20T20:21:00.000+08:00

Tita Lourding Velez had a full life at 79 years old, even if she would normally have a glass of vodka in her hand. Greg Jarencio said one of her favorites was Vodka crystals. Now, that I have to find out. Photo shows Greg Jarencio, Mom, my sisters, Violet and Minnie, and my wife Cecile, during a birthday celebration.

Cecile and I went to pay our last respects to her last Friday night at Mt. Carmel Church along Sta. Mesa, near Broadway Centrum.

Cecile had picked me up from school, since I had an early Friday morning class and decided to stay for thesis consultation the whole day.

We arrived at the wake around 8pm and greeted Tito Pepe and Tita Irene. Tito Pepe is dad’s first cousin. He is a famous ophthalmologist in Manila but age has also slowed down his career.

Then, we caught up with Greg and Monet Jarencio, swapping stories about family and advertising. Also, made kuwento about our recent trip to the East Coast and meeting up with my dad’s brother, Tito Rene and Tita Nenen.

Cecile recalled that during mom’s 70th birthday, Tita Lourding came to Aristocrat Restaurant, where the birhday party was held. She was already in a wheelchair but still had a glass of vodka in her hand. See photo.

Cheers to Tita Lourding!

Barbie and Transformers

2008-01-14T09:45:00.001+08:00

On our last day here in Oakland, California, Nicole Velez, my youngest “pamangkin” was making “lambing.” Result: Laly and I drove to “Toys R Us” the most famous and the second largest toy store chain in the United States. Wal-Mart is the biggest chain. And this outlet was only a 5-minute drive from Laly’s home in Hayward. Photo shows me and Nicole outside the store. Photo taken by Laly.

Cecile opted to stay at the house and pack our stuff as we would be leaving for Los Angeles soon.

Toys R Us has 587 stores in the United States and 600 stores in 29 other countries. I remember the first time I went to this store in HK around 1988, together with Rene Bernal. I was overwhelmed by all the toys one could get… and I was already 28 years old then. I bought my first remote control racing car. Forgot how much it cost. But I know Rene was surprised how much I enjoyed this toy as I put it into gear just outside the store’s doors, after I had bought it.

Now, it is Nicole is having fun shopping for toys. She quickly picked out a “Barbie” doll set, which was pretty expensive. Around 30 dollars. I also got her a smaller “Barbie” set as she has started her “tantrums.” She just wanted both toys. She is really spoiled by her mom. Photo shows Nicole enjoying her new toys.

Laly bought Miguel a transformer-inspired Star Wars set, while I got him a smaller “Transformer” toy worth around ten dollars. I could have bought something for myself but didnt want to start collecting "Transformers" even if I also enjoyed the movie. But for myself, I got three tanks! Those die-cast toys.

The flagship store in New York City's Times Square is the largest toy store in the United States, has a colorful ferris wheel, a lego display, and roaring dinosaur!

It Charles Lazarus who started Toys R"Us in Washington, DC during the baby boom era in 1948. The store was then a baby furniture retailer known as "Childrens Supermart." Later, it was "Children's Bargain Town USA".

Today, the chain gives smiles and tears to millions of kids like Nicole and Miguel around the world and to adults like me, who discover a world of toys.

Lito and Ana

2008-01-09T22:11:00.000+08:00

Lito and Ana Vergara drove all the way from Long Island Sunday evening to meet up with Cecile and myself at Jackson Heights. Earlier, Cecile and I, together with Renelle, Ben, Patrick and Tita Nenen had lunch at Renelle’s house in Demarest, New Jersey.

Lito had learned from Paeng Adriano that I was in the East Coast and “insisted” that we meet up, even for an hour. I have not seen my “cheatmate” in 30 years, since we both graduated from UST High School.

Meeting up brought back so much memories of UST High School. He even remembers my handwriting. Skewed to the left. Big curves. Ana even asked me to write down something so she could see proof. I wrote down “Lito Vergara” in an envelop. And, Lito was right. Cecile validated it too.

We just had salad and drinks at Texas Grill, at the corner of 84th Street and Roosevelt Avenue. Cecile had red wine. Ana had strawberry daquiri.

For nearly, one hour and a half, we caught up for the years we have not seen or talked to each other. Lito and Ana talked about their love story and family. We listened, despite being tired and sleepy (as we have been for the last few days.)

Lito still recalls “Niyere” the main character of a play I wrote back in high school for our English class (but I think it was for our Spanish class under Prof. Verzosa.) He describes the main scene where in African terrorist disrupt a U.N. meeting with their guns hidden in pizza boxes. I had really forgotten all about that play in years.

Today, Lito and Ana are proud parents. His big SUV plates say “V Boys!” Thanks Lito and Ana for meeting up with us and bringing back fond memories of high school and sharing your love story with us. See you soon in Manila.

Arrived at 12 midnight

2008-01-09T06:41:00.000+08:00

Yes, Chief and I arrived at 12 midnight from Narita International Airport and actually, left NAIA a few hours ago.

Leaving NYC

2008-01-07T14:24:00.001+08:00

Leaving NYV in a few hours.

Lunch at Renelle's

2008-01-06T23:09:00.000+08:00

It is our last weekend here in the States and we are having lunch with my cousins, Renelle, Ben and Patrick and their mom and dad in New Jersey. Unfortuantely, Renee was not feeling well and couldn't join us for this Sunday's lunch.

Coffee with Kaye

2008-01-04T13:08:00.000+08:00

Yes, after three years, I finally caught up with Kaye Tyapon. The last time we met ad talked about life, family and parenthood was more than 3 years ago, in Cebu City, where we met for the Ad Congress.

Now, she and Andrew are here in New York City and we met for a long chat at Starbucks at the corner of Lexington and East 40th Street, just walking distance from McCann Erickson amidst the chilly winter cold.

First Day of 2008

2008-01-01T03:50:00.000+08:00

Cheers to 2008

After dinner with Olwen's friends, we came back home to Jackson Heights and wait for the Year of the Rat, 2008. Olwen brought out red wine. There was chips and cashew nuts, which I had bought in Salcedo market and brought all the way to the States.

We were actually tempted to join the millions in Times Square, but I guess, since we had done that already during our first trip last December 2003, it wasn’t as tempting as before. Besides, some peace and rest would do us good as we had been walking and walking around Times Square for the past few days.

Olwen called up Love Abergas, who was now in Canada, spending the holidays with Eric and his family. We tried to call our families but the lines to Manila were clogged up. Just can’t imagine how much Filipinos in the States are trying to call home at this time.

East coast time is thirteen hours ahead of Manila time. There still practice DST here in this part of the world. Daylight Saving Time.

Mom, Violet and Miguel are probably at Tita Cabanela’s place in La Vista, together with Auntie Cely and Tito Domeng Octa. Mom and Dad Gabutina are probably at home in Golden City, Cavite.

Whatever lies ahead for Chief and I in 2008 remains to be seen, but we always hope and pray that there is a chance for parenthood this year. Happy New Year to all our families, relatives and friends and to Christian Gabriel!

Days Before New Year

2007-12-29T00:27:00.001+08:00

Spent a day here at Jaclson Heights.

Pistons Win

2007-12-28T02:26:00.001+08:00

It was on the 26th of December, when Cecile and I finally got to watch our very-first real live NBA game. Being an NBA fan, this evening is probably one of the highlight of our 2nd trip to the US and the East Coast.

Renelle sponsored our tickets for this game. Each cost US$110.00 at the lower section, which was really a good vantage point to see the game at the Izod Center. Formerly Brendan Byrne Arena, and later, Continental Airlines Arena, the Izod is a multi-purpose indoor arena in the Meadowlands Sports Complex in East Rutherford, New Jersey. It is home to the New Jersey Nets and the home of the New Jersey Devils NHL hockey team.

I pointed out to Cecile a banner that hung in the rafters that gave tribute to the 35 concerts Bruce Springsteen has done in this venue.

The arena opened July 2, 1981, with the first of six concerts by New Jersey rock musician Bruce Springsteen. The “Boss” remains the most popular concert act to perform here. His appearances have included a 10-night, sold-out run in 1984, an 11-night run in 1992, and a 15-night, sold-out run in 1999.

The New Jersey Nets, who had played their first game here on October 30, 1981, losing to the New York Knicks, 103-99. Later that season, on January 31, 1982, the NBA All-Star Game was played at the arena.

But for this game, Richard Hamilton scored 22 points as the Pistons defeated the Nets, 101-83 on Wednesday night for their sixth straight victory. It was probably all over by the third quarter as Detroit Pistons shot 78 percent. Hamilton made all five shots and the Pistons connected on 14 of 18 from the field that from a one-point halftime lead, it blew into a 14-point margin entering the final quarter.

Patrick had earlier predicted it would be a “blow-out.” And he was right. But I didn’t expect it to be that big a margin. And Cecile had observed that the Nets were not really “going for the ball” which is probably one of the reasons why Jason Kidd wants out of this team.

Christmas @ Renelle's

2007-12-27T04:27:00.003+08:00

Merry Christmas.

Christmas @ Renelle

2007-12-27T04:27:00.001+08:00

Universal Studios

2007-12-23T14:51:00.000+08:00

Scribbles and pictures to come from Universal Studios.

Nicole @ Toys R Us

2007-12-22T06:30:00.001+08:00

Hannah Montana made Nicole cry yesterday at Toys R Us.

Back in LA

2007-12-21T01:46:00.001+08:00

Today, we are back in the City of Angels!

Napa Valley

2007-12-21T01:43:00.000+08:00

Ami McCrory picked us up at Laly’s house at Hayward around 10:30am for our long drive up to Napa Valley. And thus begins Cecile’s Wine 201 lessons.

Bien Perez had given his “Wine 101” last September when he visited Manila, but unfortunately, I was in Vietnam. Bien and Cecile had breakfast at UCC Café, front 6750 Building.

Now, we were in Napa Valley, where the best of California wines is produced.

Ami is my batchmate from UST High School and was also a classmate for one year at the Faculty of Arts and Letters. While she married early and didn’t finish her Journalism studies, she, however, recently graduated (with honors) from University of California at Berkley (an IVY league school here in the States) with a degree in Sociology. She now has two children

AppleBee

2007-12-19T15:23:00.001+08:00

We just had dinner at Apple Bee Restaurant, which is like a TGIF restaurant, filled with celebrity pictures and posters. Dinner cost around 112 dollars for five persons. All big servings. I had the fried shrimps with french fries and salad. And even shared with Geneva's mashed potatoes.

Pictures soon.

Oakland Scenes

2007-12-19T15:22:00.001+08:00

Blog and pictures from Oakland, California coming soon!

Frank at Rodeo Drive

2007-12-16T14:26:00.001+08:00

Yesterday, Chief and I visited one of the most expensive shopping places of the world. Rodeo Drive. This is a three-block long stretch of boutiques and shops in Beverly Hills, California. Until the early 1950s, the center divide on this street was a horse path which is why it is called Rodeo Drive.

In the few minutes we were here, I was quietly hoping for a famous celebrity to come out of a shop. We entered Tiffany’s. Took snap shots around and front the famous shops.

Architect Frank Lloyd Wright designed the Anderton Court Shops at 333 N. Rodeo Drive. It features a triangular-shaped tower and spiral ramp. Rodeo Drive is also the first place in California to implement diagonal pedestrian crossings called scramble crossings at some particularly busy intersections.

Crossing one street, one woman struck up a conversation as she notice one car made a U-turn. I responded to her. Even a woman in the car behind the “u-turn” car also agreed with her. Was she a celebrity? Definitely, not Britney Spears.

Steps to Narita

2007-12-15T14:18:00.000+08:00

Northwest Airline 0020 brought us to Narita International Airport around noon time. It was a pleasant flight, although, we would have preferred an SQ flight. The flight crew of SQ were more friendlier and accommodating. Guess, it is because they were Asians like us.

Still, it was a smooth flight into Japan. I have been here before. Back in February 1998 and spent nearly two weeks. Still need to find those pictures with Chin. Roland, Maui, Honey, Nelia, Injong and the rest of the Philippine team attending that conference we called ENFT - 1.

Today, Chief and I share these steps. Rather, Jiru and Sheshiru as our names are said in Japanese. We stepped towards McDonalds but moved into a Japanese tea and donut shop. Chief got her coffee latte while I got a green tea latte. Trying to be health conscious. I quickly texted Bien Perez and Noelle Farol about us being in japan.

Narita International Airport is located in Narita, Chiba, Japan. The airport is in the eastern portion of the Greater Tokyo Area. I know the airport is one of the busiest hubs (but Kansai International would be busier). It serves as the main international hub of Japan Airlines and All Nippon Airways. It is also a major hub for Northwest Airlines and a focus city for United Airlines. It does take an hour to get to downtown Tokyo and that is by the fastest train. The Narita Rapid Railway is scheduled to open in 2010 and hopes to alleviate the long travel time by shaving 20 minutes.

In July 2004, Bobby Fischer was detained at Narita Airport for allegedly using an invalid U.S. passport. He was trying to board a Japan Airlines flight to Manila. That news made the pages in Manila.

The Night Before We Leave For The States

2007-12-13T20:02:00.000+08:00

It has been nearly 4 years since Chief and I were in the States. We were in the East Coast, arriving just in time for New Year celebration at Times Square and spend a few days with my cousins and Tito Rene and Tita Nenen. Tonight is the night before we leave for the States, making stops in Los Angeles, Oakland and San Francisco before joining my cousins for a white Christmas.

By Saturday, it would be the start of Simbang Gabi. And it would be our third Christmas since we returned from Vietnam in 2005 and our 1st Noche Buena in New Jersey with my cousins. Photo shows us from Christmas 2006 at our Greenhome.

Chief has not had a complete 8-hour sleep these days as she has been packing and wrapping and more packing and wrapping. I stayed out of her way as she has a “system” to get things done. She finished all our gifts for family… both Gabutina and Velez.

Today, I made three trips back and forth to Greenbelt 1. Luckily, it was only a 15 minute walk. I had pictures printed for a photo album and bought extra Yale locks. Plus, sent our Xmas money gift to Uncle Ming, who lives in Marikina.

Mom wanted to come to our Greenhome today so she could see at least on the night before we left but there was still so much work to be done and our home was in disarray. She was crying when we talked on the phone this morning. But I promised to call her later tonight and tomorrow morning from the airport.

Kingdom

2007-12-06T08:04:00.000+08:00

I am a fan on Jennifer Garner. When Chief and I were in Vietnam, we rarely watched “Alias” until last year I started following that TV series. Last September, I did buy the box set DVD of “Alias.” But still need to open and watch her on the small screen.

Last Sunday afternoon, at Cinema 3 of Greenbelt 4 Cinemas, Chief and I caught “The Kingdom,” the 2007 film directed by Peter Berg and starring Jamie Foxx, Chris Cooper and Jennifer Garner.

The movie is also co-produced by Academy Award nominated director Michael Mann, who had done work on “Miami Vice.” Remember that TV series? The film is inspired by today’s news and brings back memories of the bombings at the Riyadh compound on May 12, 2003 and the Khobar housing complex on June 26, 1996.. and in the kingdom of Saudi Arabia. That why the movie is called, “The Kingdom. Photo from Universal Studios.

Keno Turns One

2007-12-04T09:50:00.000+08:00

The 4th child of Manny and Vangie Gabutina turned one year old last 24 November 2007. And the little bundle of joy celebrated his birthday bash in their home last Saturday afternoon.

Chief and I slept over in Golden City as it was our second to the last weekend before our U.S. trip and Chief wanted extra time with her parents. This would be the first time we would be away from home during Christmas since we returned from Vietnam in September 2005.

Chief, Minnie and Vangie were amazed that Keno wanted to be carried by me. Yes, the little kid wouldn’t let go even as I got tired carrying him. See pictures.

If CG had been born last year, CG would have also turned one year old, just slightly ahead of Keno.

Like a mom to Bob

2007-12-01T22:45:00.000+08:00

This is a weekend of life and death.

Auntie Aya dies and Keno celebrates a birthday!

Last Friday morning, around 8:30am, Auntie Aya passed away. She is the aunt of Bob Novales, one of my best friends from UST. She had taken care of Bob since he was a kid, as his mom had passed away at an early age.

I remember, or rather, Auntie Aya would remember our “grupo prumer” whenever we would have “food trip” at their home in Iba Street, La Loma. Together with Cesar, Cere, Bien, Guy and others, we would eat turbo-broiled chicken, courtesy of Imarflex which was popular during the early 80s. It was during these days that I popularized dipping bananas on San Miguel beer.

I remember also sitting down for mahjong with her and Auntie Luz, who was happy to see Chief and I at the wake Friday night at the Venice Rooms of the Loyola Memorial Park in Paranaque.

Since we arrived around 7:30pm, we had a few extra minutes to catch up with Monch. She reaffirmed the important role Auntie Aya had in Bob’s life. “Madalas dinadalaw ni Bob siya kase hinahanap siya ni Auntie Aya.”

Cesar and Marivic, plus Miguel and Iya, were also at the wake, after having dinner at Serendra.

Unfortunately, Bien Perez, is in HK and just sent his condolences via text message.

Mila at 44

2007-11-28T22:58:00.000+08:00

Yesterday was Mila Pantaleon’s birthday and this blog serves to immortalize perpetuality our greetings to her! Happy birthday Mila! Photo shows Chief and Mila enjoying chocolate at Chocolate Cafe in Serendra

Here is a little profile of who Mila is and how she and her loving husband, Bingo, has touched and continues to touch our lives.

We first met Mila and Bingo in Saigon in 2002. They were introduced through a network of friends, specifically, through, Maribelle Regino, who used to work for J Walter Thompson Vietnam. She was a dentist by profession and a wife by vocation to a hard working marketing director of United Pharmaceuticals Vietnam (Unilab).

There was chemistry between us as there was similarities in our lives. Both middle-aged couples, working hard in a foreign country without kids. Both enjoying a good meal at Pendolasco, a good Italian restaurant, along Nguyen Hue, District 1 or breakfast at the Sheraton Hotel.

Often, Mila and Chief would go window shopping around Dong Khoi and often finding themselves at Ms. ha's Jewelry Shop at Mac Thi Boi. Bingo and I would only smile at the their choices. Sometimes, we would be at their home at the Pacific Gardens for lunch. Photo shows Mila, Gege (from Levi's) with my cousin Patrick Velez and Chief (at the far right).

These days, she had many kids. Young pupils who look up to her as a mom or elder sister in a kindergarden school in Jakarta. Us… we look up to her a good, endearing and trusted friend. Belated happy birthday Mila!

Minnie at 37

2007-11-28T22:46:00.000+08:00

Today is Minnie Gabutina’s 37th birthday.

Minnie is Chief’s youngest and only sister. Still but “married” or rather devoted to her profession as a member of Opus Dei, she continues to give Chief and I hope and light as we pursue our chances for parenthood.

Years ago, she was based in Rome, Italy, where she lived, worked and studied for nearly 5 years. Unfortunately, by the time Chief and I made that visit to the Vatican City in December 2003, she had moved back to the Philippines. That was also the last Christmas Mass of the late Pope John Paul II.

But before she left Italy, she did ask Lisa Ocampo, a friend to meet us at St. Peter’s Basilica. . She did show us around the most famous cathedral in the world and also the sanctuary of Opus Dei. Now, Lisa teaches in U.P. and Minnie is head of Student Affiairs at the Amihan Technical School in Laguna.

Today, Minnie makes her presence felt with her students and community in San Pedro, Laguna. Their home-baked coffee crunch brownies are my favorites. 75 pesos for 9 pieces!

Happy birthday Minnie!

Mom at 71

2007-11-25T18:52:00.000+08:00

Rene was early at mom’s birthday lunch in BF Homes Paranaque City. Among my many friends, he is now mom’s friend and text mate too. Chief and I quickly swapped stories from the Ad Congress and our own mid-80s trip to Ilocos Norte.

Melo, Cindy and Dexter had arrived Friday night for earlier. And also went out ballroom dancing with Mom, Violet and Miguel up to 2am, extending to Saturday morning. During those hours, Chief and I, together with Matess and Aries Estrella were still in Subic Bay Freeport at the Malboro Red Lights Party.

Monina Garcia, my cousin had cooked chicken and was also busy chopping the 5,000 peso lechon. Later, Melo would say that a 30 kilo lechon in Angeles would cost only around 3,000 pesos. That would also be roughly the cost of lechon was bought in La Loma.

Our relatives and cousins started arriving around noon. Bong, Gina and their 7 year old son Ryan also arrived. Toti and his family arrived. Tita Cely and Tita Peling also arrived. There were only a few guests. Still, enough quorum for two tables of mahjong. Tita Cely wiped out our table on the”first high” that surprised Vic de Vera (Nedda’s husband) and my cousin, Melo. Later, mom would take my place at this table. I felt that luck was not on my side.

Pancakes and Flashy Cars

2007-11-25T12:43:00.000+08:00

The aircon at Vista Marina Hotel was so cold that I woke up around 4am Sunday morning, searched for the remote controI which was on Cecile’s side of the bed.

Matess was completely knocked into dreamland as she had been working hard through the Ad Congress. She needed to be back at GMA around noon and I promised her that!

I sneaked out of the hotel, twenty minutes earlier. Around 6:30am, with our Sony Cybershot Digital Camera and snapped these pictures. I knew it would take around 30 plus minutes before Chief and Matess showed up at the lobby.

Breakfast was at Pancakes House. And there was a row of flashy cars parked outside. Two other Ford Everest cars parked near Shaq, presenting itself as photo opportunities.

I pushed Shaq to his near limits as I drove back to Manila, together with Chief and Matess, to be at the GMA Network Center by 11am and be at BF Homes Paranaque for mom’s 71st birthday.

Bandera Farm

2007-11-18T21:47:00.001+08:00

We all visited Bandera Farm, the sprawling farm of Tito Al Arzaga, located San Jose, Dumaguete.

Bandera Farm

2007-11-18T21:47:00.000+08:00

We all visited Bandera Farm, the sprawling farm of Tito Al Arzaga, located San Jose, Dumaguete.

Chicken Inasal @ Jo

2007-11-18T06:48:00.000+08:00

Rain greeted us Saturday lunch time as we proceeded to Jo’s Seafood Restaurant from Seventh Heaven. They are a famous restaurant here in Dumaguete City. The restaurant had a front view of the ocean.

Chicken inasal with atsara and rice was quickly served to us. I joined Tito Oscar and Tito Lorenz to take a peak at the food at the counter. Sisig. Puso ng saging. Talong that was my favorite because of its sweet taste!

And as always, Mitchell would clean up the table with his appetite!

For drinks, some had Coke…buko juice while I tasted the buko shake which was also good! I think it had some milk! Halo-halo for dessert was served in a coconut husk with fresh buko. Photo shows Chief with Tita Clot.

Despite the bad weather, there were quite a few guests at this time of the day. I saw a couple of Koreans.

Here are some photos of the restaurant.

Seventh Heaven

2007-11-17T21:41:00.002+08:00

Breakfast was served around 7:30am. Danggit was served. And scrambled eggs and garlic fried rice, plus Nescafe 3-1 coffee. Kuwentos spiced up our breakfast.

Then we proceeded to town for a little “make-over” at Seventh Heaven. The ladies got their hot oil and blow dry for their hair while Tito Lorenz, Mitchell and I got a massage. Free. Usually, it would have cost us php 300 pesos.

Seventh Heaven is located at Bandera Building, along Cervantes Street. The building is called Bandera because it was the name of the farm where Tito Al Arzaga grew up. From the roof top of the building, one can see the whole town, still largely covered by trees. A quaint Jollibee house stands out among the buildings.

Early Morning in Dumaguete

2007-11-17T06:50:00.000+08:00

Good morning from Dumaguete. The City of Gentle People. It is the 1st time ever that am blogging with the sound of ocean wavs splashing along a coastline. Yup, it our first morning here in Dumaguete.

According to the city’s website, the city is approximately 3426 hectares. The smallest barangay is Barangay 4 with an area of only 5.11 hectares, while the biggest barangay is Barangay Banilad with 362.71 hectares. Dumaguete City, classified as second class city, is the smallest in terms of Land Area.

Am looking at the coast and relaxing my eyes to feast on this morning sight. As far as my 47 year old eyes can see…I can see bright clouds and ocean.

The island of Cebu lies across the vast water in front of our room at the Wuthering Heights.

I can see Tito Lorenz and Tita Heidi warming up at the pier, that extends around 100 meters from the shore. Both are stretching the legs and arms as far as their muscles would allow it. Suddenly, I remember those scenes from “Karate Kid” with Mr. Miyagi teaching his protégé karate by the beach. Remember?

There are few “bancas” slowly moving around the ocean. Each “banca” has one fisherman. Am sure they are trying to get an early catch so they would have food on their table today.

Suddenly, I remembered Injong! Yes, my friend from DTI who is based here. Gosh, I need to find a way to contact him this weekend and say Hi. We were together in Japan for a two week training program back in February 1998. Nearly, ten years ago.

We all need calm and relaxing mornings like this. Only missing is a hot cup of coffee and that would be Figaro for Chief. Nescafe 3-1 would do.

Arrival in University Town

2007-11-16T22:19:00.000+08:00

Weddings always bring family together. And today, Chief and I take the steps of our lives in Dumaguete to share in the blessings of marriage with Aldo and Patricia.

Dumaguete, nicknamed The City of Gentle Peopleis located in Oriental Negros. The 2000 census, counts a population of 102,265 people. It is also called a “university town” because of the presence of seven universities and colleges, primarily the popular Siliman University, the country's first Protestant school.

We took a Cebu Pacific flight. Was actually running late as I still had to attend by 7 to 10am class at CFAD. The flight was short. The sight of the plane landing near the coast quickly brought back memories of my first overseas trip to HK, where the airport then was near the coast too.

Tito Ramon and Tita Norma had flown in yesterday. We shared the same flight with Tito Lorenz and Tita Heidi, “Boom” (yup, the jock from DWTM who is also Chief’s cousin) and Tita Minda.

Again, the titos and titas were talkig about our TV debut at Mel and Joey last Sunday. Tito Oscar was much impressed with our “acting” while Tito Ramon and Tito Lorenz missed the feature.Tito Lorenz says, “There is a story pala behind your story.” Even Ana saw our feature. Photo shows Mitchel and Ana (top) and Cecile and Trixie. (below)

But this blog isn’t about that feature. It is about family getting together to share parenthood’s ups and downs to wedding day blues. And for the next couple of days, we shall enjoy the hospitality of Tita Clot and Tito Al and the beautiful city of Dumaguete.

CFAD Cheer for Mel and Joey

2007-11-14T21:55:00.000+08:00

More cheers today from friends and students at CFAD. First to greet was Kathy from the CFAD Office. Also giving cheer for our appearance last Sunday at “Mel and Joey” were Anabelle Hilario, Ana Bautista and Bulanadi.

During my first class with Ad 3-4, a few students also saw the show. Even at my last 6 to 9pm class students finally reacted when I mentioned it in class. That broke the silence and stiffness in class as we were reviewing marketing basics.

My thesis class also gave me the cheer as they finally got a 20 plus year insight into my marriage with Cecile. Migs, Marianne, Ingrid, Jeeno, Gian, Eia, Asia, Lyan, Kristel, Christine and Krisi all gave out huge smiles.

Other professors like Deon Nacario and Cynthia Loza also saw the episode. Rhoda Recto says, “Sayang I missed the episode.” Even Dean delos Santos expressed positive feedback.

“Parang bagong kasal kame” I replied to Dean delos Santos.

Yes, all the congratulations I heard today at CFAD felt that Chief and I were newly married.

More Congratulations

2007-11-13T08:18:00.000+08:00

Relatives and friends continue to send us warm and kind messages after seeing our feature on "Mel and Joey" last Sunday night. Even Laly Velez, my sister-in-law, based in the West Coast sent an SMS to Cecile saying that her kids and neighbor and my cousin, Eric, watched the episode on the Filipino cable network.

After Mel and Joey

2007-11-11T21:32:00.000+08:00

Wow... our family, relatives and friends are all happy for us and the text messages keep coming in after tonight's episode at "Mel and Joey" in GMA 7. To all of you who shared their words and their thoughts, maraming salamat po.

Our next project is to list all your words on this blogsite and share with you all our feelings too!

We love you all!
Gil and Cecile and CG

Before Mel and Joey

2007-11-11T08:23:00.000+08:00

It is a few hours before we go public. Before our own IPO, as business would call it. Excitement feels our hearts as the hours move forward to 8pm tonight at GMA Channel 7 for the feature on our lives and parenthood at "Mel and Joey/" Chief and I even stayed up to watch "Walang Tulugan with Master Showman" to catch a glimpse of the teaser for tonight's episode.

And some of our friends have already seen the "teaser" for tonight's episode. They have texted us last night about it, and some replied to our text blasts or heard about our feature from friends.

Zeny Toledo texts : I will watch your story tomorrow sa Mel and Joey. Saw the preview this pm. (1:48PM)

Rene asks: This Sunday ba o sa next pa? (3:17pm)

Rene Sale says: Ok, at sa lahat ng CItem personnel. (3:23pm)

Cere asks: Will definitely watch? Can I pass your message? (3:49am)

Cris asks: Nagartista ka na? Ba’t guest ka sa Mel and Joey? (4:25pm)

Cris Nery says: Happy anniversary sa inyo ni Cecil. (6:01pm)

Noelle Farol replies to our text blast: Abangan ko kayo Sir Nguyen. Pinamalita ko na sa HCMC at Hanoi, pati din sa Barangay Masikip. Batiiin mo naman ako siyempre, live ha. (6:08pm)

Bingo Pantaleon texts : Hi Gil and Cecile, so you will be there? Sayang wala kaming GMA ditto; kopya na lang so we can see it when we’re there, thanks! (6:11PM)

Mutch Wright says : will see you on tv? Happy weekend mamu. (7:13PM)

Rita Hans replies : Bakit a-appear ka run? (7:17PM)

Mariel Dayrit texts : Sabi ko na nga ikaw yun! Saw the preview kanina and said parang si Cecile yun. Pa-autograph ha? He he ! ☺ (7:18PM)

Cris Nery further says: Relax ka lang baka yumayaman ka ng husto. Hehehe. You should take a break sometime and just enjoy time w/ Cecile. (7:30am)

Mila Pantaleon asks : Can we see that u-tube? (8:03PM)

Jen de Vera replies : really?! Will definitely watch. (8:16PM)

Minela texts: Mamu, I saw the clips this evening ☺ will surely check it out ☺ (10:42PM)

Rene Bernal says: Kilig naman trailer ng Mel and Joey featuring Gil and Cecile. (10:54pm)

Grace Faigao-Feliciano texts : Magkaibigang nagkaibigan pala ha! ☺ (11:24PM)

Rene Bernal replies: Kanina lang. Palabas na pala dis Sunday ung feature ninyo. (11:51pm)

And the day after, this Sunday,
DJ Vizconde says: Hmm … aabangang ko ba ang Mel and Joey? ;-) (2:21pm)

This morning, Mamsit just texted at 9:44 AM and said : “Texted everyone in the family about your show.” And she further texted that “Na-utube na daw ni baby bro!”.

Inday-Minnie replied to our reminder text and said “Just don’t forget us when you’re already a star!” (12:57PM).

And Popcy replied when Chief texted that our segment is only 4 minutes long: “4 minutes lang, bakeeet? Want me to file protest?”

69

2007-11-07T21:48:00.000+08:00

Often this number gives a sexy meaning but us, it is a step towards a milestone. Mom Gabutina today celebrates her 69th birthday. She is fondly called "Auring" by her relatives and friends.

Fr. Armand's Blessings

2007-11-05T22:25:00.000+08:00

After the 6pm Mass at St. John Bosco Church, Chief and I met Fr. Armand at AMICI Restaurant, just within the Don Bosco Compound. He was surprised why I had called at this time of the day (around 6:30pm). I told him that we had just heard Mass at the church and "just wanted his blessings as it is our anniversary today." Photo from www.stjohnboscomakati.org. The Church is located A. Arnaiz Avenue corner Amorsolo Street, Barangay San Lorenzo, Makati City. (632) 894-5932 to 34

"O sige, let us meet at Amici." he told me.

Even if Chief was not feeling well, we walked towards Amici, leaving Shaq in the church compound. It had rained earlier and the road was a little slippery. We just waited for a few minutes and soon, Fr. Armand, in a black T-shirt and beige slacks showed up.

"Oh, mas mukha ka pang pare kaysa sa akin." he first says to us, as I was wearing my lavender-colored short sleeve polo with a Chinese collar.

We sat outside the restaurant. He asked, "Nagmamadali ba kayo?" We replied, "No Father. We just wanted to see you. Kase, it is our 6th anniversary today and wanted your blessings."

But before he would give us his blessings, we got into a conversation about his work and daily challenges. And we thought that he was in a hurry to meet his own "Yuppeace" officials somewhete at Waltermart. We talked for nearly an hour and even moved up to his office at the 3rd floor, where he gave us free copies of the new 2008 Calendar, which features the artwork of Joey Velasco.

I had recently written a story about him in the last issue of Code Red.

Finally, we held hands and Fr, Armand placed his hands over us and prayed and blessed us!

Thank you Fr. Armand! You are "heaven-sent" to us!

The Sixth

2007-11-05T20:47:00.000+08:00

Six years ago, 05 November 2001, Cecile and I marched down the aisle at the Church of Vietnamese Martyr in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam.

It was wedding planned in five days, after Fr. Tony Salas or “Pads” as he is fondly called agreed to marry us while we were having breakfast at Legend Hotel, along Ton Duc Thang. Just across the Saigon River. After that breakfast, we quickly went into high gear. Went to Khai Silk, along Dong Khoi, for our wedding attire. I do need to scan and upload a picture.

Within those five days, Kath Mojica, maid of honor, organized a bridal shower at her house. While I had a stag party, with Bong Banal and other McCann friends like Maung Maung, Thang and Lee.

We also met with Bert and Ditas Lara at United Pharmaceutical. Both were the “elders” in CFC (Couple’s for Christ). And invited Sally Carino for dinner at our home. Both Bert and Sally would eventually be our ninong and ninang! Fr. Pads again met us at Amara Hotel for our own pre-CANA meeting. He gave us tips and insights on what lies ahead in our marriage.

Cecile says, “Today it has come full circle” as it was a Monday when we got married in Vietnam, and today, is also a Monday.
Another circle as today in the Tech Times of the Manila Times, my 6th column was published. Agnes Francisco of McCann says, “Ang sweet ng greeting card mo” as she refers to my personal greeting in my column in the Manila Times.

To quote these greetings, “Thanks to e-mail technology, I got replies from Google, Yahoo! and Research in Motion. But most of all, e-mail technology helped Cecile and I overcome an LDR and contribute to our celebration today of our 6th year of marital bliss. Happy anniversary to us and I hope we can get more personal time!”

2 hours at Brazil

2007-11-04T21:11:00.000+08:00

In Saigon, one of our favorite restaurants is “Brazil.” Other fave restaurants include Texas BBQ Ribs where Chief, Patrick (my cousin) and I feasted down to the "bones" of good-tasting ribs. And Pendolasco, with their eat all you can pizza crust. Only last September, during the Asian CSR Forum, I brought Tere Lopez-Pacis, my best friend from Intel at Pendolasco, together with a couple of other jounalists.

After the 10am Mass at St. John Bosco Parish, Chief and I proceeded to Bonifacio High Street to meet up with Rene Bernal for lunch at “Brazil” at Serendra, Bonifacio High Street, Taguig City. It was an easy ten minute drive while listening to 105.1 FM jazz music.

It was our anniversary weekend and we wanted to treat a friend who is dear to us. Photo shows Chief enjoying a cup of green tea, reportedly good to cleanse all the "fat" we ate.

Today, we look back to memories of more than 25 years while enjoying good food at “Brazil.” Rene Bernal had been my friend since I studied at UST Graduate School. That friendship started in June 1982. Together with his friend, Etoy, he visited us in Saigon last 2003 and stayed at our first Greenhome at 25 Tran Nhat Duat Street, District 1.

Unfortunately, they didn’t allow me to take pictures of the buffet table. Sorry. But for 670 pesos for "all you can eat" buffet, it was worth it. The waiter first served corn soup. Medyo konti lang. Just around ten spoonsful of soup. Then, I started with potato salad before all the grilled items started to fill my plate.

It was nice and easy two hours of kuwentuhan, from our trips to Olongapo, where we nearly faced death as Egay's car spun around three times along the expressway... to Ilocos Norte, where we stayed in haunted house... to Puerto Galera, where we buried each other in the sand and to more places we tried to remember.

Plus our first-ever overseas trip to HK in 1988. That would be a whole separate blog.

For dessert, I got strawberry cake and fruit salad.

Talking parenthood @ Eastwood

2007-11-04T08:57:00.000+08:00

At Eastwood last night, Chief and I caught up with friends who were really proud parents. Picture show (top row, left to right), Gerber's friend, Gerber, Chynna, Guy, Cesar and Me. Seated (left to right) Marie, Marivic and Cecile.

Marie Datu-Mamawal had gone shopping with her “kids.” Gerber (my inaanak) was drinking Coke. I told him, “Sige, get one beer. Okey lang iyon.” Marie would say that he would still drive and Jovy wouldn’t allow it. I proudly showed the red Adidas tennis shirt I was wearing, “Paki sabi kay Jovy naka rd ako” as San Beda was the repeat champion of NCAA basketball. Gerber is taking up Marketing in San Beda.

Marivic says that she allows her “kids” Miguel and Ia to drink at home. Miguel, also my inaanak, is now is Ateneo. Chief was pencil-pushing the cost of tuition fees. Around 70k per semester!

Later, Chynna, also arrived with a guy in tow. “Nangliligaw pa lang” whispers Marie to us. He snaps this picture of us as Marie and her kids had to leave early. Both Marie and Jovy’s kids have picked up tennis and would probably wipe out Chief and I out of the court in straight sets!

On the ride home, Guy was also talking about his only daughter, Bea, who was turning 19 in a few weeks. He shares that she had just broken up with her boyfriend. I can imagine she is a lady now in the campus of St. Scholastica!. She is taking up journalism. Probably, she has her own blogsite here?

Chief and I are still a long way from parenthood... and would need all the help and insights from family and friends.

When would be the next Parenthood 101?